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writes: Im 13 and i have a girlfriend but i feel attracted to boys as well. Iv watched normal porn but i watch gay porn as well because i feel like i get more horney over gay porn. I love my girlfriend a lot. But does this make me gay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Watching gay porn doesnt indicate that you are gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): A lot of straight males watch gay porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): If you are attracted to females...then you are at either straight or bi.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): Watching gay porn doesnt indicate that you are gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): If you are attracted to females...then you are at either straight or bi, in my non-expert opinion. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): I do not know whether you are gay or not, I'm just saying watching gay porn doesnt indicate that you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): No one is completly gay or completly straight!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): Watching gay porn does not make you gay. Just like going to church does not automatically make you closer to god.
There are hundreds of people that profess to be religous and yet do the most unchristian like things.
So until you find your sexuality don't sweat the small stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): sexuality is a strange thing we can never know to what extent our feelings can go to ,there are always stories of young children experimenting who they are it is all apart og growing up and trying to find who you are but also u might be finding ur self more attracted to boys this just means your feeling early signs of bi/gay who cares anyway your young do what you want
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Who cares? The question you must ask yourself is this one: do you want to be with your girlfriend? If yes, then stay. If no then go.
Then later in life, if you do happen to meet a man who you want to be with, then ask yourself the same question: do I want to be with this man? If yes, then be with him, if no then don't.
Deciding on your sexuality is not so hard. It can change, go with the flow, be all over the place. It's easier if you think of everyone being bisexual to one degree or the other. Some like women 99 percent and feel attracted to males 1 percent. Some 60 percent one way and 40 the other. And so on. It means you don't have to decide to be either or! If you feel confident about being straight, or gay, then that's great, but there's no rule saying you have to decide what you are right now. Or ever. Some are straight, the bisexual, then gay, then back to bisexual, then bicurious etc. Don't put yourself in a box, just go with the flow of what you feel like you enjoy right this moment.
If you want to be with your girlfriend, and watch gay porn, then do so. It's no ones business what porn you watch anyway, or what things sexually arouse you. They are personal to you, and only you decide who you want to share that with.
For the record, sexual fantasies are very different from what you'd enjoy in real life. Why else would guys love to watch lesbian porn, it's not like they are women themselves, or that there's even a guy involved in the porn. It's just a fantasy. Doesn't mean the watcher has a lesbian inside of him.
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reader, Eilish  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Hey hun. First off no, I don't think you are gay. Teenagers at your age usually feel confused and adventureous about their sexuality. It's nothing to worry about. Anyway being gay is usually known as something someone is born with. You would KNOW. Anyway, watching gay porn is fine. A lot of straight people watch gay porn as well, but that does not make them gay.If you love your girlfriend, then make the most of your relationship. Even if you do find yourself attracted to boys, then you are more likely to be bisexual than gay, seeing as you have a girlfriend whom you love. xxx
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 No, it's very natural for boys and girls your age to start having feelings toward the same sex. It doesn't mean you're gay, and it doesn't mean you're not. I would not concern yourself too much about this. If you love your girlfriend and are attracted to her, enjoy that. Most gay men I've known personally have said they never felt attracted to women. It was something they just knew their whole lives.
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (21 February 2011):
 No, it doesnt make you gay. A lot of straight males watch gay porn. I do not know whether you are gay or not, I'm just saying watching gay porn doesnt indicate that you are. If you are attracted to females...then you are at either straight or bi, in my non-expert opinion. :)
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (21 February 2011):
From what you wrote I would tell that you can be bisexual at most. But not gay because you are attracted to both girls and guys.
Anyway, at 13 you are too young to know what you really are. Or what you like the more.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (21 February 2011):
 I'm gay and had several girl friends when I was in high school, a couple which I really emotionally loved... so just because you're dating girls now doesn't mean you're straight.
On the other hadn... looking at gay porn doesn't make you gay either. At your age, just about anything is gonna get you excited. I'd say you're still a couple of years away from really knowing for sure whether you're gay, bi or straight.
I know it's terrifying to realize you might find the same sex attractive, as it's so socially unacceptable. Remember it's what society has drilled into us - gender specific roles.
I'd say just go with the flow... and try not to be too terrified about it. Until you can be sure of it.
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