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*lisa18
writes:Hey everybody..I want some adviceI am dating a 20 year old and I am 13...He is very sweet but I'm still scared because all my friends are telling me to be careful. He said " no matter how long u want to wait to loose ur virginity I will wait".. Please tell me what to do.I've been dating him only two days now.. And we were friends since November 2010. He is from Sierra Leone and I'm from Holland.I live in Africa for 12 years now.Help me! Please reply. Reply to this Question
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reader, bettertimes  +, writes (20 April 2011):
You need to stop seeing this person. You are too young for a 20 year old, I'm sorry. I'm a very open minded person even, but that's just not right. A 20 year old is in a completely different place than a 13 year old. It's also against the law.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): it sounds like you know you shouldnt be with him and want someone else to tell you. your friends are right and i assume your parents would be horrified to find this out. where does a 20 year old meet a 13 year old anyway. if hes all there upstairs then he knows that he shouldnt be with you and he should be reported as the chances are that he might be grooming you, which is wrong and a crime. 13 is too young to lose your virginity and by 20 he should be dating someone way above the legal age. you should enjoy your school life and times with friends your own age and you family. good luck and please make the right decision
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reader, Confusedk +, writes (20 April 2011):
I am 14 years old and i did the same thing when i was 13. You are not emotionaly ready to be with a 20 year old and you will go through alot of pain. So u might just need to stick with a boy younger than 16
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): A 20 year old that dates a 13 year old needs to be in jail. You are to young to be dating and conversating with a 20 Year old anyway. You have plenty of time for dating, you needs to be focusing on your school work and enjoying your teenage years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): A guy who dates a 13 year old CHILD is a paedophile. Sorry, but you're a child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Break this off, right now! I think the others have said that he may be a pedophile and my immediate concern is you. Your friends are right - actually, no, they should be telling you to stay clear of this man, or call the police or something. He should NOT be discussing you losing your virginity with him at all.Please, please, break this off.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 Don't have sex with him until you are married to him, and do not marry until you are at least 20 years of age. Do not let him see you naked or touch your private areas either, as it is illegal to do so.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 April 2011):
 sweetie... what does MOM say?cause if you were mine I'd want to talk to Mr. 20 yr old20 yr old men SHOULD NOT be interested in 13 yr old girls.you should be scared.and you need to let your parents know about him.IF you don't want to that alone should tell you something....
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 April 2011):
 He's what's known as a pedophile. Typical 20 year olds are not interested in 13 year olds because they are still children. Honestly, you cannot have as much in common as you think, or he leads you to believe. What he is doing is manipulating you, and that is why such relationships are illegal in many countries around the world.
What you should do is enjoy being a kid. Dating older guys is alright once you're older yourself, but for now, please stay away from them. Any man his age who is interested in you right now is a predator. I don't care what he may say to the contrary.
Thank god you're in different countries!
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