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gracemate123
writes:im 11 and i think im pregnantive had sex once a week ago my friends wont get me a testand im really scaredwhat do i do?help!!! Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2008): hi, u shouldn't really be doing that sort of thing at your age, but you should talk to your parents. explain that you have made a mistake and ask them to be supportive of you either way, pregnant or not. good luck!
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reader, Bladejunkee  +, writes (17 September 2008):
If you're 11 and wanting to have sex every week, you should have had him use a condom, but 18 is legal in the U.S. and just below for the UK. good luck, hope you're not pregnant, may it be to late then yes, talk to your parents.
E-mail me if this helped, or if you need more.
Sicerely
Bladejunkee
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reader, missmali +, writes (7 September 2008):
 And by the way... Just because you decided to have sex this time, it DOES NOT mean that you have to continue to be sexually active. If you decide you want to wait, YAY for you! Don't let anyone (especially the boyfriend) tell you that you have to do it again. Wait until YOU are ready to take on the responsibility again.
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reader, missmali +, writes (7 September 2008):
First, I will answer your question... There is a very good chance you could be pregnant, especially if you have gotten your period already. Even if you have not actually gotten your period yet, it could have been on the way, but got stopped by conception (when the sperm fertilizes your egg). My advice is get to a planned parenthood clinic (a health department) for a free pregnancy test. If you are in fact pregnant, the people there will talk to you about your options and will even help you tell your parents/boyfriend. In the future, please try to use more caution. Pregnancy is not the only thing that can change your life forever as a result of having sex at such a young age. There is so much else to think and worry about on top of that, such as STDs. If you are determined to have sex, please do your research, be smart about it!
Now... This post and so many like it really scare me. You are so very, very young to be sexually active, dear! I am curious how your home life is? Do you have anyone who tries to boost your self-esteem? Someone to tell you that you can be and have whatever it is that you want out of life? That you DESERVE these things? If not, let me tell you, you DO deserve all of the joy and happiness that life has to offer! You are just as special and important in this world as any of us!
I ask this because I just cannot imagine WHY you would want to participate in such an emotional and adult act at such a young age... Except for maybe you are somehow lacking attention, emotional support, love, confidence, etc.
I am thinking along these lines because I felt the same way when I was younger... I had a very bad childhood that lacked in so many things both emotionally and physically. I lost my virginity when I was 15 years old and looking back, I know why I did not wait. I was seeking the emotional support I needed so badly at that age (especially, it seems, us girls). I thought I could find what I needed in bed with a guy... I was ever so wrong. I just ended up doing more damage to my self-image.
Maybe you feel the same... Maybe you can learn from this experience and know that there are other ways of getting and giving love, respect, and happiness.
If you ever need someone just to listen to you, I urge you to try and find someone you trust. Maybe not a friend your own age, but a parent, teacher, aunt, cousin, etc... If you can't find someone you trust, come here. There are so many nice people here willing to listen and to offer advice.
You hang in there sweetie, and remember, you are NEVER alone! There will always be someone willing to help you, you just have to ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): what you need to do is go to a doctor and ask them for a pregnancy test. your way too young to be having sex hunny and maybe this will teach you a lesson. your only a kid once so dont waste your whole childhood on something that you could do when your older. i really hope your not pregnant! best of luck sweetie!xoxoxo your helping friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): go to a store and by a pregnacy test and if its to lines then your pregnate but you need to tell your parents if your pregnate because if you dont you can sick. enyway your to young to be having sex im 11 too but still a virgen
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): hey well. did you get your period yet? if so, then you might be, if not, then no
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reader, AUSTIN +, writes (28 August 2008):
 well i been single for 2 years but i'l say tell your parents even if they are mad they will help you through all of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): I kmow exactly how you feel I was 10 when I lost my virginity and I had sex with my bf well I got pregnant. I told my bf and he got me a pregnancy test. Then when it said I was pregnant I had to tell my parents. My parents were mad at me but they heped me threw it and so did my bf. If you are pregnant DO NOT GIVE UP THE BABY. Believe me you will regret it. If you can't keep the baby put the baby up for adoption. Iam am now 12 years old and hav beutiful babies. Abigail Nicole and Aiden Micheal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): Sweetheart you are way too young to be having sex how ever you cant change the mistakes you've already made. wats done is done, however you can make the best of this situation and NOT repeat those mistakes. The first thing u need to do is find some one you can trust and confide in. Whether it be an aunt , cousin, sister any ADULT who can help.... Tell them what is going on. Next step is to let them assist you in going to the doctors office and getting a pregnancy test done. I truly do hope you are not pregnant as i dont believe u are ready for such a heavy responsiblity at such a young age however i am not here to judge you.
I understand that you must be scared out of your mind there fore i dont see the need to scold you. I do believe u would learn your lesson from this experience. PLEASE wait until you are older before you decide to have sex again, u only get to b a child once and for a few short years but u have many many years to be an adult and carry adult responsibilities
Best of luck to you hunny!
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 You are so young sweetie and you not even get involved with SEX.
Anyway, you have to have a test! if that shows positive. You should talk to you mum. I believe that will shock her but she is the only one who will support and be with you and offer you help. Don't do anything silly before you seek the advice from you mum/doctors/elder sister.
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reader, trixx24 +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Are you really serious?? well your really to young to be pregnant..u should still be playing with barbies and stuff..You should get tested just to make sure and if you are well its going to be a big responsiblity..
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reader, bellasmommy +, writes (3 August 2008):
If you had sex a week ago, its WAY to early to even think about you maybe being pregnant. You probably did it on purpose for attention.. what kind of a little girl (still in elementary school mind you)would even THINK about having sex? and with whom? disgusting if you ask me.. but hunny you need to go to the store and buy one yourself, seeing how you are such and adult and all. If you dont have money,i would start lookin for change.. but also i would advise you wait another 2 weeks because even if you were pregnant, it wouldnt show up on the test.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): omg?! ur just 11?? have u start ur period yet? and how old is ur boyfriend??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): You wanted to play adult games and you have to face adult consequences. The only way to solve them is by being an adult- ooh...but your 11...Has your period actually stared yet?! Also, there is no way that this would be kept secret from your parents, no way.What the HELL where you thinking?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): PREGNANT at 11 wel your stupid to have sex @that age but now you need to go and buy a pregnancy test make a excuse like its for my mum and then do the test and then tell your parents all about it preganant or not
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (1 August 2008):
Every one has given you all the advice I would. One thing to think about if your not pregnant before you have sex again. If you had a baby now the your baby would graduate kindergarden as you graduated high school. Scary thought! You need to wait at least 5 years before doing that again plus no guy will respect you if you are easy.
One other thing to keep in mind is that both abortion and live pregnancy have complications especially at 11. Both have complications that could result in your death. So next time that you think about sex think about if it is worth dying over!
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reader, crzylucy187 +, writes (1 August 2008):
STOP HAVING SEX! You're 11 YEARS OLD! Seriously! I really hope you're not pregnant, however when you make the decision to have sex then you better be ready for all the consequences that come with it, which includes pregnancy, STDs and psychological issues- esp. at such a young age. You have the rest of your life to have sex- so STOP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): hello
you must be scared. firstly you need to go to your doctors. you can go alone. book an appointment when you get there and say it is an emergency. The doctor can not tell anybody not even your parents and the docter will give you a free pregnancy test.
if you are scared you can ring childline for advice. the number is given below on another comment. it is free and it does not show on your phonebill at home.
try and tell an older sister or cousin or a friend. try and tell your mom. write her a letter and give it her before you go to school. tell a teacher you trust.
i pray everything will be ok for you.
love and god bless
friend x
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (1 August 2008):
 The problem with trying to buy a pregnancy test, is that they are only sold in chemist in the UK and are never purchased by children your age. If you try to pick one up, the chemist will spot your underage and ask you questions. Do you have an older sister or cousin or somebody you trust that will help you. You may have to tell your parents anyway. It's difficult to help you because your so very young. Call the NHS first and see what they can do. You can ask for confidentiality, but I'm not sure where they stand under the law. Don't wait, and don't be scared, you have to take the test, if your pregnant, everyone will find out anyway, so you have no choice.
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (1 August 2008):
Damn you are young, I don't think the doctors will be able to keep this a secret from your parents, but it's still worth a try. As you notice, the advice is for teenagers, nobody expects 11year olds to be doing this. Contact the people at the NHS. Give them your name. Tell them your very scared and tell them what happened and ask them to help. Little girls playing adult games.... I just hope your not pregnant.
The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service. http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/index.aspx. You can contact them on 0845 4647 if you need emergency advice on contraception and pregnancy. Don't be afraid, call them, they are there to help. They have special services for teenagers in the UK and are able to provide advice and support.
Childline is a UK charity that can provide support on the telephone for all kinds of problems that children and teenagers face, so please give them a call. ChildLine on 0800 1111. www.childline.org.uk
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (31 July 2008):
 First of all, calm down. You are still not sure if you're pregnant or anything, so don't panic yet.
Now, what you have to do is go buy the test yourself. If someone asks, says it's for your friend or your mom. Don't look asamed or anything, nobody will suspect an 11 year old.
Now, if you are pregnant, go tell your parents ASAP. You will of course feel ashamed and fearful of them, but they will eventually find out. I'm not sure of the abortion law towards 11 year olds, but I'm pretty sure they'll need parent knowledge of it. Your parents will help you go through this and they will seek for the best solution for your grave problem. Don't seek your friends help, I mean, how can they help? They don't even own cars or steady money! Just tell your parents now.
Now, I do think that you panicked because you just had sex and you obviously didn't know what you were doing.
Now, I hope you learned from your mistake and wait to have sex until you're older (and I mean around 16) and to someone you trust and love. I hope this pregnancy scare has taught you to act more responsibly and understand that adult stuff should be performed by adults and not by silly kids who think they're too cool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): You need to get a test first of all, don't be emabarrased about getting one either. You need to tell someone, you need someone to support you. If you are good luck to you! You mite want to think about you options and think about who to tell your mum would be best but if not maybe a family friend or someone but really you need some adult help and support. I hope next time you use protection and remember your only 11 don't be in such a rush to grow up!
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reader, girlygirl2thextreme3 +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Buy a test yourself hun....buy more than one to make positively sure. If your friends cant do something simple as that, what kind of friends are they? I'm not criticizing your friends but they should be there for you 24/7. I agree with sparky...now that you're doing adult things, you should get help from an adult...best of luck! Hope you aren't pregnant SSOOO young!!
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reader, ladycharm +, writes (31 July 2008):
 well if you've started your periods and unprotected sex then there is a chance of you being pregnant you need to talk to someone don't be scared it may also be to early to take a normal test go and see your doctor and have him do a blood test its really the only way to be sure i wish you all the luck in the world honey
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): You're awfully young to be having sex don't you think??Anyways, have you started your period? If you haven't, it isn't likely that you're pregnant, unless you coincidentally had sex during your very first ovulation. If you're that afraid of pregnancy and such, I'd suggest not having sex until you're more emotionally and physically prepared to do such. Be sure to use protection when you do. As far as a pregnancy test goes, you won't be able to tell a week after having sex. A pregnancy test is most likely to be accurate after you've missed your first period, but I don't know if you've started that or not. Even then, at such a young age, you might not be regular yet. If I were in your shoes at that age, I'd truthfully wait it out for a little while. I wouldn't worry unless I started seeing signs of pregnancy. Here is a link with the early signs of pregnancy: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/earlypregnancysymptoms.htmlIf you're TOO afraid and can't wait, then I'd highly recommend talking to a parent. It may be super difficult, but if you think you're pregnant, that's your best option and you'll have to go through them eventually anyway. You could also opt to find a Planned Parenthood depending on your location. Sometimes they'll do that stuff for free if you're living at home.
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reader, sparky +, writes (31 July 2008):
If your friends won't get you a test, then buy one yourself... say it's for a friend, but get two so you can do both of them. Then, talk to your parent or a trusted adult. I am so sorry to say this, but you are entirely too young to be sexually active, so you need an adult's help now that you're doing adult things. Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): u need get yourself check up , make appointment with a doctor and see if it ok u have pregnacy test also u bit young to have sex as well
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