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writes:I've been asking close friends and family members this hypothetical question to see their views on this subject.Its a bit of a morbid question i admit, but its a way to learn about the emotions of men vs women.SO here it is:If you married your soul mate, and they died suddenly, either after years of marriage or only a few years, you decide, would you start dating again, or live on with their memories?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): I guess I'm the kind of girl who lives once, loves once. Even if you do start dating again, which I haven't had the capacity to do, there are only a few very special people who will settle for being a consolation prize, who will wait a lifetime for a "maybe" and know that all the while the person they love is still hopelessly devoted to someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Christmas eve, 2007, my fiancee of 3 years passed away. She had been diagnosed 3 months earlier with cancer. Her 3 very small children went to her ex husband and I was suddenly alone again. She was only 44.
I feel exhausted and drained still. I feel like there is nothing left for me in this life now that shes gone. Fully one half of my soul was buried with her and even if I do survive and move on, I will always be just a partial person.
Will I ever date again? Sure, if the right person asks me. Otherwise, no I will not be searching again.
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reader, TELLULAH + ♥, writes (4 March 2008):
 What if the soulmate you thought you had, ran off with another woman, is that harder than if they had died. Because surely seeing the person that you would have died for yourself, then give that love to another person must be equally heart breaking. But you would have to move on wouldn't you. Life would go on, however hard it might be.
I think its better to have wonderfull memory's of a loved one, that you were with till the end. Than one you thought you would be with, that ripped out your heart.
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reader, Lucy2118 +, writes (4 March 2008):
 One of may friends married her soulmate and he died a month after the wedding, he had cancer. It was a awful time for her and everybody as he was a huge character. He died in the March of last year, my friend was devastated and mourned his death really badly. However, she has gone on to be in a relationship with another guy and is really happy, but is still madly in love with her husband. Some of her and his family members and friend frowned upon it but 2 months she's still with her new boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): I wouldnt be able to start dating again. I am with my soulmate now, so i know how devastated i would be if anything happened to him. No i wouldnt want another bloke in my life in the future. I would face the end on my own.
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reader, Midge + ♥, writes (4 March 2008):
 I lost my boyfriend some years ago. He was murdered.
I have NEVER forgottten him and every year I put a bit in the memorials section of the newspapers to remind others that I have not forgotten him. He was a huge part of my life and it took YEARS to get over the grief of loosing him, and you never forget them. You remember every little thing about them. How they felt, how they smelt, how often they said "I love you".
However, you do find that after some years of dealing with the loss, it gets better and you can move on with things. I have now found a wonderful man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. He understands that I love him dearly but that there was someone else in my life and that every year I put a piece in the papers. He knows why and understands how much this person meant to me.
You never think you will be able to find someone else, but you normally do. It is never the same, but its as good as you make it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): It would be just too awful to have a soul mate die, and I think it would take so much time to be able to even consider liking another person. Obviously, everyone is different, but I think I'm with mine now, and if he died.. I just couldnt handle it. I probably would be ABLE to date again but I'd never WANT to. There's quite a big difference between being able to and wanting to.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 It depends on each of our destinies.
If we are meant to marry again , we will.
Whether you will re marry or not ,only God knows.
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (4 March 2008):
 I think we have lots of soulmates that we find in life; friends & significant others. If I were to die, I would want the man I left behind to have a full life and not live a miserable existence without me just out of loyalty. If he was happy having a lone existence, that would be fine too. That would also apply to my child, my family, and my friends. If the man I loved died, I wouldn't pursue dating for a long time but eventually, I would have to move on if I felt I was ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): I don't know if I could. I'm pretty sure I'm with mine now...and if he died, I think my heart would go with him. It's sad to say, but I think it's true. :(
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (4 March 2008):
 I would stsrt dating again as I don't believe in the concept of there only being one soul mate for each of us, there are many soul mates....and it does not mean you are honoring them by simply living alone with only their memory....their memory will always be in your heart no matter where you go or who you are with, and you would be honoring their life by gettin on with yours and living to the fullest....
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