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writes: Question - if you partner wants to have a threesome/experiment with others in your sex life, does it really mean that they do not love you?
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 I would not particularly feel loved to answer your question. Concentrate on how this makes you feel rather than what others see as comfortable.
In 3-somes someone always gets left out and neglected. Even in open relationships, there is a consistent pattern of confusion that over time arises.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): I have two opinions on this one.
Firstly, maybe it's because he just wants to experiment and try something new. Lots of men have the fantasy of him and two other girls, because porn has made it acceptable.
Secondly, maybe it's because he's a little bored in the bedroom. Perhaps he feels like the spark is no longer there? That doesn't necessarily mean that he no longer loves you.
Talk to him about it and ask why he would like a threesome.
Personally, I think threesomes are dangerous in relationships. You may not be a jealous person, but when it comes to seeing someone else touch your partner in such intimate ways, feelings may come around that you never knew you had. It can lead to jealousy, low self esteem, paranoia.
If you don't want to do it, tell your partner. he should respect your decision.
If you ever do decide to go down that route, you need to set your boundaries. Don't make it a regular thing, and try to spice up your love life between the two of you. Also, you both need to agree on who it will be with, and that neither you nor him can just call him/her up for a booty call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not sure; that's why I am asking you guys!
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (7 August 2011):
the question is would you feel loved if someone were to have a threesome or experiment with others in the bedroom?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): Not at all!!! It's probably a fantasy of his that he's wanted to do with you and share it with you. if it was a threesome without you i'd be highly concerned but with you no. It's just a fantasy that he obviously would like to come true with you.
If you feel concerned about whether he loves you perhaps sit with him and ask him why he would like to do this... and if you get your answer but still feel he doesn't love you ask him if he does. I am sure it's just a fantasy thing he wants to fullfill with you. Try not too worry too much but as i say ask him if you are concerned.
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