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If we did get together I'd be paranoid that he'd cheat on me the way he cheated with me

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Question - (12 October 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 13 October 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Over the last few months I've been speaking to someone I used to work with and we've been out a few times. He has a girlfriend so we've always made a point of saying we are only friends. Then when we were out with a group of mutual friends we ended up sleeping together later that night. Since then he keeps saying he really likes me and I like him too but I wish I didnt. I feel awful about the whole thing because I've been cheated on and I know how it feels! I really want to be with him but even if he didn't have a girlfriend I'd be so paranoid that he'd do the same thing to me and he's just done to his girl friend..

Any advice on what I should do? I know I should walk away but it so much easier said than done.. Help please?!

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (13 October 2014):

eyeswideopen agony auntHas he showed any inclination of leaving his girlfriend for you?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (13 October 2014):

CindyCares agony aunt Your fears are well founded , unlyckily. Maybe it's not : once a cheater always a cheater.. but " once a cheater OFTEN a cheater " , yes. You are at more than average risk of being cheated on.

Then again, perhaps you don't exactly have to worry. Meaning that he keeps saying he really likes you, but he also keeps being with his girlfriend and not leaving her, isn't he ? It would not be that unusual that he decides to keep his cake and eat it too.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (13 October 2014):

Honeypie agony auntWell, you fears are pretty natural and there are no guarantees that he will be faithful to you, why should he?

But this is what happens when YOU decide to sleep with a guy who isn't single. Give it a year or maybe less.. and you might be in his GF shoes.

LEARN from this.

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