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If my ex is happy with his present relationship, why does he still talk to me?

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Question - (7 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 8 July 2010)
A female India age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My ex broke up with me 6 months ago.I tried everything to convince him.But failed.After that I use NC.It Worked.He tried to contact me aftre one month.I didnot reply at first.He tried a lot of thing to break my NC (indirectly).After a long period I broke my NC.Then He said sorry to me.and also said he was missing me but as a friend.I forgave him.After that when I tried to initiate the contact,but he tried to avoid me.I dont know why?One day suddenly he started some intimate talk with me on phone.I tried to change the topic.But He continued.When I denied he told me he was kidding.And also told He had a very good time with me.But he would be very happy if I found someone else.I took this casualy.After that every day I called him up once.He received the phone but hanged up the phone giving me some excuse.And guess what happend next?He insulted me,told me to leave him alone.I promissed him that from next day I would not disturb him.

After our break up he went for a new relationship within one week.I dont know at present its exist or not.But my ex did not tell me about that.After one week later I send him a message That I know about his new relation.He then tried to make me emotionaly weak to receive his phone.I then received his phone and behaved with him politely.

When my ex told me that he had a new relationship and still he want to meet me, I just said " Best of luck for your future.But I dont feel that we shold meet right now.It may hurt your present girlfriend and may disturb your relationship too".He agreed with me and said still he want to stay friend with me.It was not possible for him to keep contact with me in a regular basis but when he need he would contact me.I said "it depend on you whether you want to keep contact with me or not but I really dont want to be a reason for spoiling your relation.I just want you to be happy.good luck" then I hanged up the phone.After that I Deleted my profile from face book and changed my phone number.I did not give my phone number to any of our mutual friend.

My questions are If my ex is happy with his present relation then why he want to keep freinship with me?And why did he initiate intimate talk with me?Is dis a right time to start NC again?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

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But I really cant leave him.I just want to know does he still miss me?if yes then why is he behaving with me like that?he told me that he was missing me.He wanted to stay with me as a friend.But Why,if he hates me?Its really confusing to me.If I say I will not disturb you he usually do something by which I get to know that he wants to maintain a thin contact line with me.but why?is he confused between me or his present gf?Or when I talk to him he feel secured and start loosing interest in me?Or he dumped me once so he just dont want to come into that relation again.may be he is not prepared for that.or may be he is afarid to be committed again.So he just wants to maintain contact with me as a friend.

What should I do?Cut off all the contacts with him for some times?I did it.But i am confused that I am on the track or not.And what to do next.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010):

Its right time to leave him.Don't wast your time don't spoil your love with such a careless guy.

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