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lovecrazygb
writes:Help! I am in love with my maths teacher and I don't know what 2 do. I want to tell him but then I will not be able to do my work. My friends are making me tell him by this Friday (14/03/08) or they will tell him, what do I do? I really really love him. I am 13 and he is well 36. Help me please. At first it was a joke but now well i have fallen for him and i keep saying he is cute. He makes me laugh, some times i am the only 1 who thinks he is funny i write love hearts inside my maths book was he is going 2 find out soon or later what do i do i am really really really in love with him please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, maddierose  +, writes (19 March 2008):
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Never tell somebody they are not in love because of their age. Love is just as real and painful WHATEVER age you are! And somebody young may not be in love in the same way as an adult, but to that child it feel like true LOVE. And if that is the way they feel then it's just as painful!
Who is anybody else to tell them about their own feelings!?
I had had enough of people telling me I was too young to be in love, it didn't matter what anybody else perceived as love, I knew what I was feeling, and it was real and painful to me! And I can only assume that to this young girl it is VERY real! So never try and tell anybody else about their own feelings. Love is different for everyone. So what you may not see as love may totally feel like love to a different person!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): You are definitely not in love with him. You can't know what true is at that age. Do you blush everytime he talks to you? Do you daydream about him all the time? If the answer is yes then NO your not in love with him.True love happens over time, when you truly know the person. Infatuation can happen like love at first site, its just a huge crush. Why would your friends do that to you, if they where truely your friend? You could get into serious trouble if you told him at your age and so could they. On the other hand, he probibly will know how to hand the situation.Just what ever you do, dont lose your friends over something like this.
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reader, lovecrazygb +, writes (19 March 2008):
lovecrazygb is verified as being by the original poster of the question my friends didn't tell him because they saw i loved him so muchthanks 2 every1 for the advice.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 He probably has dealt with school crushes many many times in his teaching career. You said your friends were going to tell about your crush on him last Friday, didn't they tell him? He probably knows it anyway because you sound like you wear your feelings on your sleeve. So what do you do? Nothing and try not to embarrass yourself. He will never be anything else but your teacher so just face the facts.
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reader, lovecrazygb +, writes (19 March 2008):
lovecrazygb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionon tuesday we had maths and my maths teacher said they the yr 11's said maths was hard so then i started to read from a book a equation if you should get a tatoo or not and then he started to say what the letters (V,A,S,F) STAND FOR when he got to V he said it stander for 1 to 10. i being just a litte tatoo and 10 you really wanted to get a tatoo he then said "you know where"the whole class started to laugh then he looked at me and i started to think why is he looking at me. after the class was over me and my friedns when outside and my friends said that when he said
"you know where" i whened bright pink-red.
i what do i do if he knows
please help me
PLZ HELP ME
PLEASE HELP ME
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): you can't be in love WITH someone, until that person is in love with you. He doesn't like you like that, I can guarantee it. And if he did, it's illegal anyways, and your parents would have him arrested
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Regardless of whether this is a crush or not you need to get over him. Sorry to burst your bubble, but that's the truth. He will teach other classes, you will end up going to a different school as you go up into higher grades, etc. etc. etc.
But if you want to risk the possibility of someone older manipulating you after you cross some boundaries, feel free! It's your life!!!
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reader, lovecrazygb +, writes (14 March 2008):
lovecrazygb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit is not a 'crush' i really really love him
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 March 2008):
Oh gawd........you know that there is a time and a place for everything. You should've told yourself to focus, went back to your test, and thought about him when you had some free time.
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reader, lovecrazygb +, writes (13 March 2008):
lovecrazygb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit is not a 'crush' i know what a 'crush' is like this is not a 'crush' i really have fallen for my maths teacher and we had a maths test 2day and could not finish my test because i was thinking about him(him and me).
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): As others have said, tell your friends to bug off and that you've moved on to be in love with someone else. Then, keep your feelings about your teacher to yourself. The problem is that he is not allowed to feel that way about you at all, so it will be a rather awkward conversation. I promise you, you will get over him and find someone your own age. We've all been there, so good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Slap your friends! they are being pathetic! telling him will not help you stop loving him. so they shouldnt be anything to do with it. if I were you i would wait about a week and then start telling people its a fase, and then slowly make it so that everyone thinks you're over it and then keep it a complete secret, telling people doesnt help, that way people find out more through word of mouth. But your friends, deal with them - tell them you've told him, and say that he threatened to report you to the head. and then theyre sorted, and then use the its just a fase thing. works everytime, I hope that things get better for you as I know how painful loving a teacher can be..
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 ITS INFACTUATION AND LUST DEAR. THATS ALL IT IS. AND BY TELLING HIM U WILL MAKE HIM XTREMLY UNCOMFORTABLE and it bodes no good. nowadays teachers can be charged for things like this, if misconstrued by others. if i were u id keep this to urself, fantasize alll u want. and just move on in life, or alternatively, get counselling. ur 13 yrs old, this mans way way many yrs ur senior. maybe even married or dating other MATURE women his age. note the key word. mature, and his age. u dont know ANYTHING about men or what they want or need or anything about life relationships period.ur hormones are raging dear. i was there myself when i was ur age. and i certainly dont look about and think, oh wheres that math teacher i liked? i found my soulmate, and it took time and a lot of heartaches and experience to be where i am now. sorry to shoot u down. but pull ur underwear back up and get a hold of ur self. good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 March 2008):
Enough already.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 This was posted yesterday
and you will most likely get the same advice, he wont take a bunch of giggling school girls seriously.
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reader, desirewhitefire +, writes (12 March 2008):
 You're not in love with him, you have a little girl's infatuation with him. Tell your friends that they need to grow up and be more mature. That's ridiculous. They only want to humiliate you. My friends did the same thing to me when I was your age, and I never talked to any of them after I left the 8th grade.
When you leave his class, you'll forget about him. And not to burst your bubble, but if you tell him, he probably does not feel the same for you and will have to hurt you and embarrass you. He's not allowed by law to think of his students that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Don't tell him, it's just a crush, you'll get over it. Think of it like this..would you want to date your dad? because they are probably about the same age.
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reader, Dannii-oxo +, writes (12 March 2008):
Teacher's do not take things like this to heart. I bet he has lots of people saying it. If he does watch tv, there are many people who say it for a joke and the teacher just laughs. This may be tv but these kind of shows tell the truth even though they do exaggerate on some things.
Your friends do not seem like true ones and maybe you should find some new ones?
I hope i help.
Danni
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reader, Tisha-1 + ♥, writes (12 March 2008):
 Wasn't this question posted already?
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