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writes:Hey i recently found out for sure i was bi. (i sorta thought i was when i was younger but i would always deny it) I know i would never want a relationship with a girl but i get turned on just thinking of doing sexual stuff with a girl. I also have a bf who i love very much and we got to this topic becuase i told him about a dream i had. Any ways he thinks i should get it out of my system and fool around with my freind thats a girl who is also bie and has already tried to get me to do stuff with her. My bf wouldnt be there with us but i would be texting him. The problem is i told him i would feel guilty and like i cheated on him if i did. He told me that i shouldnt because he said it was ok and knows about it. Even though i want to try it and do it and even though he told me it will be ok i still worry he'll feel betrayed and me feeling guilty. What should i do? I want to do this but i dont want any thing bad to happen i love my bf alot and dont wanna risk any thing. Thanks for any help.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Have you considered this other girls feelings in all of this? would she be happy been your experiemnt or does she have feelings for you and maybe want more, this could cause problems with you and your bf too, he may feel ok about it now, but after the event he may feel different, also you may enjoy it, and feel different towards him or want to do it again. Im not saying dont do it, im just saying think about it before just doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): Sounds like you have a good, safe opportunity. The only concern I have is the "texting" part. If you're going to have sex with another person, please DO NOT text during the encounter. It's just too impersonal for your partner.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 I think that if he is ok with it then you shouldn't feel like it is cheating and you should try it out once. I'm sure the experience won't distroy your relationship with him by you running off with this girl but it may be the one chance in your life just to see what the other side was like. Another option would be to get him involved as well so you two can share the experience. My gf and I did this with a female friend and I had fun while see was able to see what it was like without the guilt or actually dating the girl.
But in the end if you don't want to risk it because there is that chance then it might be best to take a good while to really think about this. I do beleive that your sexuality is something that you don't want to be wondering about later on in life.
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