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writes: Hi, I have three children, (36) husband is (42). I told him I want another, my youngest set of twins just turned 6. I feel I waited enough time, he used to say financially he didn't know. We are doing fine now. I think he is just stalling. I'm not ready to be done. If I can't convince him, how bad would tricking him be? I know that sounds sick, but I heard a lot of women do it. Any advice Reply to this Question |
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reader, becky05 +, writes (15 August 2005):
Just because a lot of women do it doesnt mean its right. How would you feel if your husband tricked you with a life changing event? You need to talk about this again with your husband and tell him how unhappy this is making you.
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reader, harshbutfair  +, writes (15 August 2005):
 Tricking him would be awful. Terrible.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (13 August 2005):
 The decision to have another child is so huge that it must be mutual if you want to keep the marriage and family healthy. Tricking him into it is not the way to want to bring another baby into this world. The birth of a new baby is a happy, joyous event. Children are beautiful gifts for the purpose of adding to a meaningful, solid family..why taint the birth of a new child by using sneaky tricks to make it happen. You want him to cherish the gift of becoming a father, once again-you do not want to mistrust you and resent you for doing it in such an underhanded manner. And he will know what you've done!
If you can't convince him to have another child then you one other solution to think about. Be happy with what you have. Shower your other children with everything they need-attention-love-instilling the values and confidence they need to take on life with self-assurance and happy, positive attitudes. Focus on the blessings you do have.
Good luck and be happy.
Hugs, Irish
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reader, myteamum +, writes (13 August 2005):
hi hunny,to be honest the worst thing to do to a guy in my opinion is to trick them into having a child.I think that you would be better of to talk to your partner again.You already have three children and perhaps he is just quite contented with the family he has already and simply doen`t really want anymore.I think he has rights too and one right is not to be tricked into something he may not really want.I mean what if it causes him to resent you for tricking him and resent the baby too it has been known to happen that way round too you know.i hope that this will help you.But please be careful about your decission and ask yourself would it really be worth risking the relationship you have together as a family and as a couple?
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