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writes:So, with this being a question regarding the male mind (the most confusing universe in existence), I'm really looking for opinions from some guys. However, if there are any girls who have performed miracles and managed to actually understand what goes on in the heads of men, their responses are welcome as well. ")If a girl tells a guy that she loves him and his reply is, "You, too," what is the girl supposed to read from that. Even though he did not say the word "love," is the guy still trying to say that he loves the girl? Or, is the absence of that word supposed to raise a red flag?Any help is greatly appreciated; thank you in advance. ") Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): it's obvious the boy does not feel the same way about you, but you shouldn't let it get you down, just in future you should wait for him to make the first move, and wait for him to tell you he loves you and make sure you are giving him reasons why he should love you back xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2012): Speaking generally: If you cannot understand men then you are probably underestimating us.
Women have a tendency to think mens emotions are more predictable and easily influenced than other women's. Women have a habit of dreaming up a plan for how a man's feelings for them are supposed to develop, and then being surprised when he doesn't follow it.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 August 2012):
 It clearly means he's not comfortable saying "I love you" back to you, so this way he saves face, he thinks he's saving your feelings and eventually he'll figure it out down the road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2012): It depends what you mean by the word 'LOVE'. I myself didn't know what my ex girlfriend meant when she said 'I love you' to me when our relationship became serious. During the course of our (now defunct) relationship, I found out she wasn't a virgin. As a guy, who had a clean record with females,I felt cheated. She sensed my disappointment but told me that despite all the other guys she's been with, I was the only one she said she loved. That's why I got sooo confused. Does she truly love me or is she making a mockery out of my love for her? Apparently my love was good enough for her words but not her honor.. To me, words without honor are meaningless. Maybe she truly did love me. I don't know.. But I cannot place my confidence in the words of a woman who wasn't faithful to herself. It was too much a risk. It has been ages since we've broke up. Now she's just some woman I pass by the street. A total stranger. So what was the whole point of this story? Don't presume that us men understand & define LOVE exactly like women. Therefore, before you utter that big three word sentence, make it your business to understand how we men define love & how we show it to the women we hold dear to our hearts.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 August 2012):
 I think it means that he either isn't ready to say I LOVE YOU or he isn't able to say it yet, neither are a red flag (unless perhaps you have dated for 6+ months then if he CAN say it he ought to)
I find people OVERUSE to term I love you. So I actually think it's good that he doesn't throw it out here constantly.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 August 2012):
 Depends on the guy. If he just says "you too" it could be because he is shy, and scared to show his feelings. He probably isn't ready to tell you he loves you yet. Maybe he doesn't feel love for you yet, or isn't sure, in which case he says this to avoid hurting you. Or it could be that he is just shy, like I said. In either case, the guy needs more time and isn't quite there yet. He'll say it when he feels like it, and until then there's no need to analyze it to death.
Guys tend to be very literal, they say what they mean and mean what they say, whitout it needing interpretation.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 August 2012):
 We men are of few words. We learned that in the John Wayne movies that we saw whilest growing up.....
His "....you too..." MEANS: "I love you, baby.... but, as you can see, I am a MAN, and we MEN aren't allowed more than a couple of words, each day. ... AND, most of those words are MANLY words, like "You wanna take that outside, podner????" or, "Hey, barkeep, I need me another whiskey... and don't be slow about it.".... "
So, you see, you've gotten more than you should have expected, in exchange for your vow of undying love!!!!
Good luck....
P.S. I'll be happy to interpret any OTHER comments you might get from "Mr Quiet."
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 August 2012):
 some people do not say "I love you" easily. My current partner does not. It's not a red flag if his actions show you how he feels...
it's not a male thing....it's about his personality. I've had men tell me they loved me when they did... some people just don't say it well...
if you are close enough to him to say I love you then you are close enough to ask him "what does that mean?"
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reader, confuzzledamethyst  +, writes (7 August 2012):
 well this is quite simple he might not love you depending on how good ur relationship is... ask your self does he put his arms round you frist does he look you in the eye when you talk to him does he do the running??? if so maybe he is just shy to say the "L" word so its your job to bring him out of his shell thats just how I work out these situations...
hope this helps xx
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reader, Just Gill +, writes (7 August 2012):
 Depends on the lengh of time you have been with him hunni, If this was the first time you said it to him...baybe he was surprised and feels it's far to early for the L word. I would say men where actually very simple compaired to the female mind, our downfall is we over think to much!
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