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*nonem
writes:Hello cupids, I met a guy on facebook for after 4 years of friendship on facebook. 2 years of stalking from him and 2 years of him letting me know he is amongst my thousands of friends on facebook. While I was on holiday in chicago two years ago, he kept on saying he was going to see me, I was very afraid because that was the first time I knew him and he sounded more like a stalker. Fast foward to this day I finally went for a company anniversary that he invited me for and I paid close to a 100 dollars on cab fare(foolish of me) because I live far, had been at home too long, needed some fun and had be unemployed for about a year now.Unknowing to me he invited me to that event to see me as he had never seen me before(i am a pretty woman and I know it: ex model) but I went to have fun and I didn't. The event was a sham.Some months ago he told me about and event scheduled for today, I told him straight up I wasn't coming but I hid my reasons(i have no money to waste). He then offered to pay my cab fare to my utmost suprise and I agreed. Some days ago I let him know the cost of the cab and he said I should use my own money he would refund later. I told him to give my invite out.Then he calls me today to ask if I was still coming knowing fully well I said and I wasn't and obviously because I cannot waste money. I yelled at him, I couldn't help it and hung up. I know it's not his duty but I made it clear from the start I wasn't coming so why does he have to go back on his word and I did a background check on him, he's a filthy hustler. I am so embarrassed I graced the first event. I have decided to sever all contact with him because I hate when people assume I have too much which me because I look rich on social media(well I was till it took a downturn). I hate being friends with such people. What do you think? And the cost of my cab fare can buy me groceried for a month.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 December 2015):
 If you hate being friends on facebook with people who make assumptions and presume to invite you to events based on your presentation there, then you need to manage your friends list better. You say you have thousands of friends, you don't know them all personally, obviously, so it's very likely more than a few will be a "filthy hustler."
Prune your friends list, only have people you know personally on the list and you won't have to fret about paying for cabs to events with people you don't really know.
As for this particular event, this guy obviously figured out the way to get you to agree to go was to offer to pay for you cab. You told him "straight up" you weren't coming but then when he said he'd pay the cab you agreed. So he figured you right out. You said you hid the reason for saying no in the first place, which was that you didn't have any money, but then yelled at him.
Just drop him from your friends list, if you have thousands then you do seriously need to prune it down, as you seem to have attracted at least one stalker/filthy hustler.
You chose to spend money you didn't really have on cab fare. That's your decision. It's a lesson as well, if you choose to learn it.
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reader, anonem +, writes (6 December 2015):
anonem is verified as being by the original poster of the question @anonymous, I wasn't unrealistic on my facebook post. I come from a priviledged family and just post pictures like everyone does of how they dress, eat travel and all but since I decided to move out on my own, I haven't been so rich and it's better that way, I am happier. Its just that right now in my current state, I haven't uploaded any pictures or given any hint that I am not as rich as before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2015): Ok. Plain and simple. Forget about this man. He didn't keep his word. He offered to pay you the cab fare to going to the event. Now he says you should to pay and he will refund you. No! And please be aware of those "nice" guys on Facebook. They all are not real and nice as the pictures..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2015): I don't get what you need? Why would you agree to meet someone who you say yourself acted like a stalker anyway?!
Yeah severe all ties with him, he sounds weird. Try not to live your life through social media either, you say people would think you're rich or whatever. Just be realistic, if you're going to portray an image online that isn't true then you're going to attract people into your life who want to be part of that fake life you're creating or they are fake too.
Focus on people in your real life.
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reader, anonem +, writes (6 December 2015):
anonem is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPls permit the errors in my post. I was typing too fast. I meant groceries not groceried.
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