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30-35,
*ubenShirley2008
writes:I am taking an Anthropology course, along with 400+ students, and when I met my TA, and I was just shocked at how beautiful she was. She's about 5'8, very kind, is from Brazil, and is 2-3 years older than I am. Although I like Anthropology, I can't even tell myself if it was the TA or the subject that just makes me excited for our Monday and Wednesday lectures and our Friday discussions.Obviously the problem here is that she's on the payroll of the school I'm currently attending (KU), and as much as I want to ask her out, I would hate to cause a conflict of interest. She would occasionally tease me in discussion because of how we're the only Spanish speakers, and would always stress on me (after class after everyone's left) coming to her for help when I need it (which I've an A in the course as we speak). I've come to the conclusion that asking her out, while I'm still enrolled, would be disastrous and I'm not even sure if the feeling's mutual. I don't know whether to ask her out next semester, or if this is even something I should try at all. The very least I could do is just tell her I liked her, once finals are done and all. Any sort of input is appreciated. I'm just wanting some subtle opinions about what my chances are with her. Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): yes it would be a huge mistake. And she could lose her job over this. Universities know students often fall in lust/infatuation with staff. But if anything happens they throw the book at staff, on the basis that they are in the power position. How would you feel if she lost her job and her professional reputation was in tatters because you over stepped the mark and did initiate a relationship with her right now? It would be wrong for you to do that. If you have serious desire for her then you should care enough to not want to hurt her like that. Do not tell her you have feelings for her until you have your completed degree in your hand. Be pleasant with her but do not over step the boundaries. Wait until you have completed your study and after you finish completed ended ALL your studies at that University and left with your degree can you approach her.
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