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writes:Hello, Id like some advice on how i can deal with my boyfriend owning a gun.He says its like another body part, and takes it everywhere with him. I really don't like the idea of him carrying a gun, i mean, i don't mind if he owns one, and has it locked in a safe or whatever, but carrying it around everywhere thinking that someone will cause trouble, it makes me nervous.Now, this is a long distance relationship, and he lives in the states, i live in Canada, but, he is moving here in September, and he knows how safe and peaceful my town is, but still insists that he'll carry his gun or knife around.How can i get over this or talk to him and convince him he wont need it 24/7?thanks.
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reader, BigSis  + ♥, writes (25 April 2008):
 Thanks for the link Sis.
xXx
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 oops- here's a better one!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_QjEL0uUgo
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (25 April 2008):
No, BigSis, most people feel the way you do- even in most of the US. Living in the south though, it's a whole different story and a very different mentality. We have this thing called the NRA (national rifle association) and these people firmly believe they have a right to protect themselves and their property. It's a way of life and a value system. Take a look at this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjFiHENNf9Q
Just one of the many issues around this.
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reader, BigSis + ♥, writes (25 April 2008):
It must be a British thing. It seems that people from across the pond feel different about carrying a fire arm, or is it just me?
There's been far too many random shootings over here recently, and I for one am dead against them.
I know one thing for sure, if I'd owned a gun at the time I was married to my very abusive ex husband...AND, when I was 'trapped' in a relationship with an older guy for 13 years immediately after, {who was even more violent and abusive}...I would not have hesitated in using it to protect myself and my children, instead I just took the abuse 'til i knew I was safe to get away from them.
It's amazing what people can do in a split second rage.
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reader, Salad_Barbarian + ♥, writes (25 April 2008):
 Is there a particular reason you're not comfortable with guns?
I've found that when most people are scared of something whether it's guns or flying or computers, learning more about them lessens the fear. Next time you visit him tell him how his gun makes you feel. Ask him to tell you why he carries it. Also ask if he can show you how to use it. I don't guarantee that your fear will completely disappear but you will be able to make a more informed decision on how you can both deal with this issue.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (25 April 2008):
If this guy's from Texas, good luck on getting him to part with that gun! I completely disagree with the concept that someone who carries a gun will eventually use it- it's obviously more LIKELY, however, it has to do with the mentality of the person. If your boyfriend grew up with this mentality and is comfortable around guns, his owning one has little to do with carrying one out of fear and paranoia. Instead of demanding that he give it up, I would ask him some questions about it and see where he's coming from. I totally agree with jinxx though, he's going to cause more problems than what he thinks he's protecting himself against, moving to this small town of yours.
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reader, BigSis + ♥, writes (25 April 2008):
He clearly has an issue of feeling insecure, why else would he carry a gun around with him or even a knife?
I'd like to suggest you report him, for his sake, and I doubt very much he has a licence for it, therefore he could get in to a lot of trouble, plus he'd never forgive you, but you can't go through a relationship with someone ~ knowing he's carrying these weapons, you're going to be worring yourself silly everytime he goes out or is late home or doesn't call you when he says he will ~ for fear that something may have happened to him.
People who carry guns will kill or be killed. It's just a matter of time.
If you love him, and value your lives ~ then you will find it in your heart to say the right thing about getting rid of it.
Please take good care of yourself.
BigSis
xXx
Please take care
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reader, jinxx +, writes (25 April 2008):
You really want to be with someone who carries a gun with him 24/7? I'm sure doing that causes more problems than the ones he thinks he's protecting himself from. Unless you're entirely okay with putting yourself in what could be a pretty dangerous situation, I wouldn't step into that relationship 'til he found his brain again.
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reader, phiatiger +, writes (25 April 2008):
You need to tell him how worried this makes you and how you will not accept it being carried around all the time when he moves. Im afraid I believe anyone that carries a weapon has the will to use them otherwise what is the point and what if there was trouble, it was taken off him and he was shot with it? Please address this as soon as possible.
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