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I went home for the weekend and returned to find my rented room trashed!

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Question - (24 February 2020) 5 Answers - (Newest, 26 February 2020)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Hi Agony people. Just wondering can someone tell me whether I’m right or wrong. Rent a room off a lady for college term. Stay Sunday night to Friday and go home every weekend. She is away but at the weekend her son had a party and some people crashed in my bed. Don’t mind people using it as long as the sheets are changed afterwards. Came back last night to a messy room. Dont know who or how many crashed in my bed. Do I have right to complain and be angry. Thanks.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2020):

Yes yes yes! You rent the room, therefore its YOUR room. They have no right to stay in it when you're not there. I would ask to have your rent reduced to compensate.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (25 February 2020):

CindyCares agony aunt Yes, of course you have the right to complain and be angry. If you pay a monthly rent ( i.e. if your rent covers also the days / periods in which you happen not to be there ) you have the right to be furious, as for that . Your landlord had no right whatsoever to let anybody use your room even just for 5 minutes , and now ( if I decided to stay there nevertheless, which is improbabale, after what happened ) I would demand to be given all the keys to the room, or for a padlock to be put on, or anyway a device that can guarantee my privacy and exclusive access.

If you are only paying for 5 days a week, it's less clear cut. ( Yeah it's a weird sort of rental agreement, but not unheard of ). If your rent only covers 5 days of the week, it's implied that the landlady reserve to herself the disponibility of your room for the other 2 days. It would be also implied, though, among decent people, that whatever use she does of that room when you aren't there, your room must be intact, clean, with clean sheets and your bed made, by the time you come back !

All in all, … in your shoes I'd look for another accomodation somewhere else. Whatever your rental agreement is, your landlady seems to be too oblivious and hands-off to be someone who deserves your money !

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 February 2020):

Honeypie agony auntYes you definitely have a right to complain. It's unacceptable! What if they go through your things? Would that not be totally inappropriate?

If you PAY rent to live there that room is YOURS while you live and pay rent, REGARDLESS of her son wanting to have his friends crash there. And REGARDLESS of whether you are there or not.

I think you NEED to have a chat with the lady you rent the room for and you need to have a key or some sort promise that the room isn't used by others (including the son).

I mean What the actual F?!

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (25 February 2020):

Aunty BimBim agony auntYes complain, providing you have a weekly rent and not just the 5 nights you actually sleep there.

I hope you thought to take photos.

As a tenant you are entitled to privacy, don't tell the landlady you don't mind as long as they change the sheets, instead ask that a lock be provided so that you are able to keep your belongings secure when you are not there.

The arrangement sounds too casual to me, there should be a written agreement outlining expectations for privacy and respect for you and the landlady.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2020):

Yes, you have every right to complain! Your landlady has a jerk for a son; and if she's going to rent rooms in her house she should respect her tenants.

She's taking your money, you have the right to complain!

It would give me the total creeps knowing some unknown stranger slept in my bed; and I would be livid that someone entered my room without my permission!!!

Your landlady should have known what's happening in her own house; and if she condones this kind of behavior from her douche-bag son; I think you better find another place to live. If she doesn't do anything about it, she's a douche too!

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