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I wear conceal to hide spots. What if I guy wants to see my face without the makeup?

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Question - (21 March 2019) 5 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2019)
A female Indonesia age 22-25, *lla...... writes:

Hi, I've been thinking lately, I got some pimples and redness on my face and to make my self cofidence rise again, I cover them with concealer, and if I have a boyfriend in the future and if he wants to see me with no make up, what should I do??? Cause from what I've red, mens don't really like girls with make up, and concealer is a make up too. Please leave me your advice, Thank youuuu

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2019):

Guys don't mind if you wear a little make-up. Even if you go without it sometimes, you really don't have to worry; because they will likely have pimples too, if in your age-group.

Don't start stressing and worrying too much about being judged about your looks by men. You're young and you should be enjoying being a girl and life in your teens.

I think the suggestion about ProAtiv was a good idea; but you should see a dermatologist to determine what causes the pimples and how sensitive your skin is. Make-up may cause you to have more pimples; but don't get in the habit of hiding behind make-up in shame. That's like being a prisoner. If you don't have concealer, you'll be afraid to go out. Worried all the time about how people think, and you can't always please people. If they can't find one thing to criticize or judge you about, they can find another.

If a guy really likes you, he will not pay attention to your flaws; it's you he really likes. He probably wouldn't notice if you have on make-up or not; unless it's too much.

Don't pick at pimples or squeeze them; or you will cause scarring or discolorations on your skin. A dermatologist will tell you what over-the-counter preparations might help to fade the spots; or prescribe something suitable for your skin-type. Be it oily, dry, or combination skin. The doctor will also tell you what kinds of soaps and cleansers to use to prevent and fade pimple-scarring and spots.

Best wishes, sweetheart!

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2019):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntWhen there’s a guy you like who genuinely likes you, he will not care that you have spots :) We all get them sometimes, especially as teenagers - you may find that a boy you really like and he’s got spots, maybe on his back/chest instead of face or maybe on his face too. Covering them up, while understandable, usually makes them worse because make-up clogs your pores. Some facial cleansers that work for people:

- ProActiv

- Simple

- Freederm

- Garnier

Look online for skincare products that have been given good reviews by people with acne. Use the internet to find where you can buy that product cheapest and try it for a few months. If no improvement, buy the next one and try that for a few months. Keep trying different ones (over time) until you find one that works - don’t buy too many at once because it’s too expensive and you can’t rush through reducing acne. Even if one doesn’t reduce your acne, keep it to help clean your face after using make-up :)

Just remember that all make-up and cleanser has an expiration date. You can usually find it on the back as an open pot with a number next to it - usually “12”, which means 12 months after opening. Don’t use it after the expiration, even if it seems fine still.

Don’t wear make-up every day. Only wear it when you have to and remove it as soon as you get home. If you’re going out somewhere, try to stick to 8 hours or less of wearing make-up and always use cleanser after removing your make-up :)

Do not worry about your spots. All of these people look perfect online, magazines, in person, etc., but it’s usually lighting, make-up, editing, etc. Almost every single person on earth struggles with spots at some point :P

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2019):

One word my love, ProActiv. It worked wonders for my teenage daughter and her spots / acne. I even use it to even out my skin tone.

Speak to your parents about purchasing it for you as it's alittle expensive. But, they do offer a treatment package for the full set at £27.99 a month for a 3 month course which works out cheaper than if you were to buy it from a pharmacy which is £49.99.

Do not put makeup over spots, it just makes them worse. Plus, boys / men really don't care about that short of thing. They like you for you regardless if you have spots or not. I saw it with my daughter.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (21 March 2019):

Honeypie agony auntMost girls these days knows MORE about make up than I ever did. My 16 year old daughter can spin circles around me with all the various, concealer, sculpt, contour... YOU name it! she knows 10 times more than I do.

So I don't think your "future" BF will be HORRIFIED that you are a NORMAL teenager with occasional bump, pimples or redness.

And IF he runs away in "disgust" because you like to cover up any blemish you aren't happy about... just wave bye bye to him, he isn't worth keeping.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2019):

Hi there,

Do not worry. You're at an age where spots and pimples are common, but this will pass. I too used to wear make up all the time to cover up my uneven skin tone, but as I got older (I'm now 23), I started to wear less and now I wear no skin makeup on a day-to-day basis.

If you still wear concealer when you find a guy you really like, don't stress. If he truly cares about you, it won't bother him. If he does comment and make you feel insecure, he's not worth your time.

Just think, there are millions of women around the world that wear make-up who have found a partner that loves them for who they are, with or without makeup, and so will you. But for now, just relax and have fun with it.

Hope this helps :)

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