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writes: I met a guy who really liked me and made it obvious. He chased me for ages. He started to text me regulalry and then suddenlyy stopped. Then I started to text him and went a bit over board. I told him I really liked him and he backed off comepoletely. I realise I was far too keen but I thought, what the hell, I'll be hinest, cut the crap, we're not kids. But now he seems disinterested. How do I turn it around and get him interested again. I could kick myself for bring so pushy. I'm just a forthright kind of girl and don;t like games. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): There's only one way to do it and thats to be unavailable, I am dealing with the same thing with a guy, he chased me to start with, is always really full on then as soon as I initiate meeting him or start to take control in any way he backs off and doesnt respond to emails for weeks. If that happens, wait for him to contact you, wait for him to ask to meet you. That way you always know he actually wants to see you. Its hard to deal with because as women we need a lot of reassurance that we're wanted in a consistent way, but these guys are never going to be able to be consistent. They also will never settle down so consider that first then make sure you still want him before you get too attached!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): i have recently done the same.I have felt i have made a complete fool of myself.I sent my last text to him Sat night and haven't heard back so i have deleted his name out of my phone,so i'm not tempted to text him again.
If he seems unintrested i wouldn't bother,it only ends up with you feeling bad about yourself.It did me.Try and forget him and look for someone new.He has your number,if he wants to contact you.
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reader, hazelbanana113  +, writes (29 March 2011):
I'm the same way as far as the pushy goes.What I think is you've made yourself 'too available' to him.Guys like to chase girls. I'd stop texting him, or start texting him and tell him you changed your mind and only wanted to be friends.Sometimes the best way to get a guy is by confusing him.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 hi when he was chasing you did you seem disinterested in him? maybe he has got someone else now. it doesn't matter who you are or how gorgeous you are - most people (with any self respect) will only chase you so far and then lose interest if they feel they are not getting anything back. why did you not get involved back when he wanted you to and then decided you wanted him when he had backed off a bit? you say you don't like games, and forgive me for this but it seems like you DO like games. maybe he is the one who doesn't like games and this is why he is no longer interested in you. as the pushiness and overboard approach has not worked in getting him back then maybe you could just draw a line under that and start afresh from now by just sending him the occasional friendly text, just casual and see does that work on him. maybe he is not interested in anything 'full on' so you telling him you 'really like him' maybe more than he wanted and it has scared him off xx
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