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writes: i miss my ex-bf so much. he broke up with me almost 3 months ago, saying i was "choking" him and i admit i was clingy because i didnt want to lose him, he was "busy" with college life and i was "controlling". however, he promised he would come back to me, maybe in a few years, when he's not too busy with uni life anymore. i promised him i would not be clingy and controlling anymore, as ive learned my mistake when he left me.we still talk whenever we see each other at the uni, sometimes he calls me too, but when we were in a relationship we talk 7 days a wk, now its like 3 days a week. sometimes we still do things we did as a couple (eg. kissing hugging handjobs) but he is not committing to me yet. i know i should move on but i feel like i won't find anyone as good as him (faithful,kind and hot) and he told me he would come back i just dont know when. its been 3 months and i still cry at night wishing i could turn back time. it pains me when we're together now, we do sweet lovely things couples do, but we aren't in a relationship. he just don't want a relationship yet. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): well first of all im sorry that ur man left u because u were to klingy. i have been in a relationship for 5 years and im klingly, but my man knows why that i am klingy and we work around it, try to make it better. hes very helpful.
for u on the other hand he has left and i know that ur feeling lonesome and u want him back. i dont think u need to fear that ur never going to find a guy like him. there are a lot of great men out there looking for great women. and ur ex is expecting u to wait until he is ready, however long that takes. i dont fricken think so. u must move on. if he hasnt tried or hinted about getting back together with u after 3 months time, then its not going to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): He is not being fair to you. He should let you move on, by making promises he is keeping you hanging on to false hope.
You need to break away from him and start enjoying your life for yourself. At the end of the day the longer you hang on to his promises, the more hurt you will feel when he pushes you away.
You will find someone else in time. Things are always difficult when a break up is fresh but they will get better.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 October 2006):
 Nothing you CAN do, if you are willing to put your life on hold and sit and wait for him to come to you then do it. But if I were in your shoes I'd get busy with my life and go out and have some fun. Your choice.
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