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I was teasing and he took it seriously and now I don't know what is going on!

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Question - (22 November 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 22 November 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Okay so to start off, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months anyway today we we're hanging out and I was giving him a blowjob and I stopped and kidding around said ya know you're so mean, I always do this for you blah blah blah, BUT I was totally 100% joking around. Then he pushed me away and started to get pants on, I was like huh? And he was like I'm mad, you called me mean 40 times blah blah blah. So I was like fine I'm sorry you know I was joking but I'll leave, On the way out I said I love you and he said it back then when I got home I texted him apologizing again and asking (joking around) are you ever gonna let me give you a blow job again? He responded with "not sure right now" I'm devastated and have been crying all night. I feel like he hates me. Any advice? Please. :/

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010):

Kindof a great way to ruin the moment though..

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A female reader, fi_the_tree United Kingdom +, writes (22 November 2010):

fi_the_tree agony auntjust give him time to chill out for a while, he'll come round.

Oh, and lay off the joking around for a while if he has that reaction!!!

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A male reader, hiro06 United States +, writes (22 November 2010):

Im sorry but that pretty funny lol. Not to be mean or anything, but no guy I know would tell his gf "Im not sure if I let you give me a blowjob again". General most guys love blowjobs I dont know any guy that doesnt like or doesnt want blowjobs. I wish I had a gf that would cry about not giving me a blowjob. Well, anyways you bf is just being a dick and screwing with your head it seems like give him a couple of days to cum around get it cum instead of come nevermind. Well, anyways its more of a psychological game he is playing and he is winning. Tell him you wont give him blowjobs or sex and see how fast he comes around lol. ALL GUYS HOMOSEXUAL, STRAIGHT,BI, OR OTHER LOVE SEX AND BLOWJOB. I wont worry about it too much soon enough you will back on your knee and back to work. Sorry, I just think is funny no real guy would ever tell a women that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010):

When you are giving a blowjob, the man you are with can be surprisingly emotionally sensitive. I know in porn they aren't but in real life they can be, so it's important to be considerate. Stopping and saying something that confuses him emotionally can be like a punch to the gut to his self-esteem. It shows him you weren't really into it and you were thinking about something else, which probably makes him feel hurt and disconnected from you. Your joke looks a lot like a mind game, sorry to say. I'd concentrate less on your emotional devastation and more on cutting out the insensitive joking and patching things up with him. And next time you give him a BJ, be willing to be passionate about it or don't do it.

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A female reader, Miss Taterbutt United States +, writes (22 November 2010):

Miss Taterbutt agony auntYou're really THAT upset about him not making up his mind whether or not he wants you to blow him anymore? There are far more important things to worry about than that, sweetie.

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