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I was going out with my friend for 4 yrs, now I fancy my other friend, but hes male! What should I do ?

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Question - (13 April 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 May 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Right, hi, i am a guy who is going out with a girl who was his best friend for 4 years. now i, like, fancy my only other best friend of 5 years (who is a guy) aswell. what should i do? should i tell him, her or what?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007):

i have recenlty dicovered that i am gay and that i love my best mate. i dont know how to tell and how he will react. we are such gd friends and i dont wont to ruin it. but i was hoping to be more than friends.

please help me

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A male reader, lboy United Kingdom +, writes (10 May 2007):

lboy agony auntdear reader,

i think that you should try your best to tell this guy that you LIKE him and tell your GF that you think that its just a phase and that you think you should take a break until it has passed and if the guy feels the same about you then you should follow your heart and give hima try.

i hope this has helped you.

good luck

lboy

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007):

Yikes! I answered this question a little earlier today, and I hadn't noticed your age!

I take it back now. You are way too young to be experimenting with a 3-some! What you really need to do, is just be cool, take some cold showers, and get into a good sports program. If you are not into team sports, take up running.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007):

That's a really tough call. The problem here is that you might not be gay or even bisexual, but just bi-curious. You don't want to ruin a friendship when in the end you might find you don't like it. Here's a test for you to try. Next time you mastrubate, try tasting your semen. If it completely groses you out, then maybe you will stop thinking about this guy.

I don't know how open-minded you and your girlfriend are, or how long you plan to be in this relationship, etc... but if you are ok with it, you might want to considered having a MMF three-some with her. You can tell her that it's all about her pleasure, or just tell her the truth. Or just talk about fantasies with her. Tell her you know you are not gay, but sometimes you get these thoughts. Ask her if she has ever fantasized about a woman. If she is honest, she likely has. Fantasizing is fine. Reality could be totally different. If you can try it out WITH her, then that could be a safe way, -- or not, depending on yours and hers maturity level, commitment, confidence, etc. The last thing you want is to have her reject you and tell all her girlfriends you are gay, when you are just bi-curious.

Alternatively, you can try him. I wouldn't ask him right out (unless you already know he's gay)... But be very subtle. Maybe watch some porn with him... and get to where you can mastrubate in the same room as him. Take your time. Evenually you might be able give him a blow job... maybe he'll give you one.. By the way... if you are bi-curious, you might find giving him a blow job much easier to handle than kissing him on the lips is. That might sound odd, but I have a slight degree of bisexuality, and kissing a guy, especially if he has whiskers, or even rough stubble, is difficult... it feels really weird, and makes you wonder if you really want to do it. Going down on the other hand can be fun, and much more exciting. I've never had a guy come in my mouth though. What you do is up to you... just have fun, be very safe... and think of long-term consequences. Good luck!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007):

guess it depends on wether he is gay too.If not I wouldnt.I certainly wouldnt tell her. You may end up with none of them as friends - not because you attracted to a guy, but because you are seeing her and if he not interested they both may end up not wanting to know you

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