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I was drunk and punched my boyfriend in front of his co-workers. Now he's telling me to come get my things!

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Question - (25 October 2014) 10 Answers - (Newest, 27 October 2014)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend is a senior managering director in a company with 750 workers and met me at a social event that my company went to and i work in a factory making pies and at another event i got what you would say had far too many drinks and he did not like it and i swore at him and called him swear words and while i was drunk i took a punch at him and knocked him over in front of the HR director of his company and like me she had a few too many drinks and we both laughed but since then he has not contacted me only to say could i come and clean out his house of my things and his daughter sent me a text saying that her father has found another woman and that i need to move on fast. what shall I do?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (27 October 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony auntYou need to be pleased he did not have you arrested for assault.

Be a lady.

Be an adult

get your things (or send a friend to do it for you if you can't bear being an adult)

you owe him an apology.

IF you have an alcohol problem (this was not a once a year drunk sort of thing) then you also owe yourself a consideration of cutting back or quitting drinking.

WHY does society in general think women abusers have a pass???

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2014):

take your stuff and maybe apologise for what you had done.

But lets be fair at his place of work , where he is a director he will known as the director with the girlfriend who punched him and knocked him over in front of his own work colleges while drunk..

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (26 October 2014):

person12345 agony auntDrunkenly punching someone is a dealbreaker. Drunkenly punching someone in front of their coworkers is something you should consider seeking help for, either for your drinking or for anger management or both. That is not acceptable behavior for anyone. You're lucky he's not pressing charges!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2014):

If he'd hit you, you'd be running for the hills and calling the police.

Go quietly and cross your fingers he doesn't call the police on you.

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A male reader, Mark1978 United Kingdom +, writes (26 October 2014):

Mark1978 agony auntWhy would your partner put up with physical abuse from you? When men hit women they are seen as dispicable animals who should be locked up but when a women hits men its often perceived differently but it should not be.

Get your stuff and leave this man alone. You should be ashamed of yourself and learn to act with more dignity and self control in future.

Mark

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (26 October 2014):

Ciar agony auntGo and collect your things, with whatever grace you can muster up. No arguing or trying to patch things up and definitely no scene.

Then take some time to think about your behaviour and make a decision to either moderate your alcohol consumption, like an adult, or stop drinking entirely.

I don't think what you did was funny at all. It was boorish, trashy and criminal.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2014):

It's the lack if repentance/ resolution to change in your post that speaks volumes.

Would you stay in a relationship with someone who was violent with you? In front of your colleagues to make it worse? And laughed?

Ofcourse you wouldn't.

What you should do is apologise and leave him alone as requested. Then take measures to make sure you don't hurt other people.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (25 October 2014):

Aunty BimBim agony auntYou need to go get your stuff and get out of his life. Being drunk is never an excuse for unsociable behaviour OR violence.

The damage you have done to this man goes way beyond punching him ... you need to get out of his life.

It would probably be a good idea for you to seriously consider the ramifications of your drunken behaviour and make some life changes.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (25 October 2014):

olderthandirt agony auntPack up and move on in your life..Next time try to control yourself.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 October 2014):

Honeypie agony auntGET your thing from his place and move on.

I'm sorry I do not find it funny to punch someone in the face and then laugh at it. Had HE been the one punching you, HE would be in jail. Being drunk is no excuse.

YOU messed this up and I don't think there is anything you can do to make him change his mind.

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