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writes: I was at a party with a group of my friends because it was a mates 18th. Anyway, we started drinking and I think I had a little too much because I was dancing a lot and I never do. I started dancing with this guy I know from my school and we kissed and stuff and then he lead me outside. We started making out but then he began to undo my trousers. I felt a little worried at that point and asked him to stop but he just said that I was being silly and everything would be alright. I was starting to get upset and tried to push him away but then he dropped me to the floor, pulled down my trousers and underwear and tried to get inside me. I tried to push him away but he pinned me down and covered my mouth. It hurt so much because he was rough and the fact that I was a virgin made it hurt so much more. I never told anyone what happened, but he told his friends that he "shagged some girl." To top it all off, Im pregnant and I don't know what I am supposed to do now. Everything is so screwed up. What can I do? Please help me!
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reader, natashaxx  +, writes (1 June 2008):
omg thats awful i think u shud go straight to the police he rapped u its an offence tell ur parents they shud understand,dont let this arsehole get away with it and dont blame this on urself its some dickheads fault but tell someone wheather its a mate the police or a family member.xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): I am so incredibly sorry that this jerk (to put it very very mildly) did this to you. Do what Waterloo Sunset said: Go to the police. Tell your family. They will know it wasn't your choice and will support you. And another thing: THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. You didn't ask for any of this. DO NOT even for a second blame yourself. Make whatever choice you think is best about the baby, but my advice would be to not get an abortion. Even if you don't keep him or her to raise yourself, there are tons and tons of couples who are waiting for a child to adopt. Also, there are a lot of emotional struggles that people who get abortions have to go through. But, this is just my opinion. Best of luck to you with whatever you choose. My heart goes out to you and my prayers are with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): You have been raped and now you are pregnant. Go straight to the police. Even if he denies it, you still have to take the matter further. Are you going to keep the baby? Do you have family support. Go to your doctors and tell him all of this also. Get it down on record at as many places as possible, but do nail the bastard. He doesnt deserve to walk the street. If you have the baby, then he can be nailed later by his DNA, please dont just suffer in silence. Go to the police.
take care
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reader, doc,cupid  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 You poor thing. First of all this gu in my mind needs a good kickin!! No one has the right to do that to anyone to steal your innocence like that is the most traumatic thing anyone could go through and my heart really goes out to you.
As regards to what you can do firstly i would tell your parents, As hard as it may be if they care about you they will help you through this. You have been through something truly awful and im afraid its not going to be easy what you do next. You can go to clinic, your doctors, a hospital and speak to a doctor about what happened. A female doctor if you prefer. If you dont want the child you can have an abortion.
It's up to you but i personally would also go to the police because regardless of alchol being involved he has committed a criminal act and should get whats coming to him. If someone did that to one of my friends id kick the shit out of them but the right thing to do is go to the police. You havent done anything wrong you told him to stop and he didnt.
I know its hard deciding what to do and that dealing with the police, parents, doctors isnt going to be easy thats why i would strongly suggest speaking to your parents or a very good close friend who will help you get through this.
If you need any information or advice regarding this then please let me know.
All the best
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