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36-40,
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writes:I've been seeing this guy for almost 4 monthes. From the very beginning we were together (we moved pretty fast...but I followed his lead). He asked me to be in gf about a month in and we've been going strong. He kept saying things like "I almost love you", "I'm falling in love with you" etc. I told him to wait because I wanted to be sure of it. We met each others parents and about 2 weeks ago I told him I loved him. He said he loved me so much and had wanted to say it for over a month. He writes my name with his last and he just very open about how much he cares for me.Our relationship has been so secure that I never doubted his affection. We spent nearly everyday together, he took care of me when I was sick, and we get each other. We have argued, about silly things, he's a little OCD, and he worries alot. He also sufferes from erectile dysfuction. So sex is a bit of a strain on us.Randomly one night he says, "Now don't get upset, this isn't bad..." and word vomits out all his worries about his feelings not being as strong as mine, how we've moved to fast, why aren't we having sex as often as we should....so on and so on. I was devastated. We took a day or two off and I decided that if we slowed things down, didn't get into the "i love you" yet and saw a doctor about our sex life together we would be fine. He tells me that he just doesn't think his feelings are strong enough for a relationship but he doesn't want to break up and loose me. He still wants me in his life. I told him it doesn't work like that and broke up with him.I felt like we were soulmates...my friends are shocked because they know how amazing we are together and how he treats me. I want to know if he'll come back. I know no one knows that answer...but does it look like just a freak out? I hope is that he sees that he doesn't want to loose me and comes back...and if he does take it slow and work on it. What do you think? Am I crazy?
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reader, ladyjaye  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 he probably realised his true feelings.. sorry to say. its easy to think you are in love with someone when really you are in "lust" or natural obsession... i think that its better that you have a clean break because it sounds to me he probably just want to "friends with benefits or bed buddies" if you get what im trying to say... the best thing for you to do is move on and hope that you can learn from it... hope this has helped... gud luck!
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