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writes: My friend and I used to date. We were together pretty seriously for about 6 months, then she broke it off 10 months ago. Since then, we've had a few sexual encounters, but both agree we're better as friends. Now, I want to tell her that I've been seeing someone recently, just to be fair. Is telling this to her in a public place appropriate? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 Not quite sure why you would want to do this in a public place ? No one likes to air their washing in public... or are you a little worried about a reaction ? Im sure in private is the best way to go, and dont be like major to the point, just casually mention that you have been seeing someone else and that you thought it only fair to let them know as you think it might become serious with you and the newbie, and just wanted to keep things all out in the open... and whilst you had alot of fun together and had a laugh etc, you would like to still be friends but wanted her to realise that sex is probably not a good idea when your seeing someone else on a romantic basis.
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reader, NenaUnique  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 no i think you should tell her this in somewheres where there is not a lot of people..or maybe you should..depends on how she is..if she is someone who will start yelling cuz she get offended to easily then i say you should tell her in a private place..oh and if you are seeing someone else and you want that someone else to be your partner then oviously you should leave your "sex buddy" becuz its just not right.
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reader, Adverse_Tadpole +, writes (14 January 2007):
Well... unless she is a mass murdering f*** h*** then you should run for the hills, change your name and have a face transplant... However, I'm assuming this is not the case (but make sure though), and you know her farily well having been in her company for the last 18 months, so don't feel worried about telling her that you are starting a new relationship with someone else, do it privately, but not in your "lovepad"... keep it clean and simple. Enjoy your new relationship...
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (14 January 2007):
 no i dont think it is, i dont know anyone who likes being put down in public best bet take her somewhere private somwhere she feels comfortable and tell her gently, that you both decided to be friends and you have met some one who you care for greatly and wish to end the casualness of the relationship you still want to be friends.. hope this helps xxx A
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (14 January 2007):
 i don't think you should tell her in a public place, tell her in private, away fom the public. She won't be to mad as you have both agreed that you are best off as friends anyway.
good luck
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reader, cd206 + ♥, writes (14 January 2007):
 I think you should tell her in a private place if possible. Even though you're sex buddies and not in a full on relationship she still might be upset and she deserves to have privacy to deal with the news. I know it's harder in private but I think you owe it to her.
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (14 January 2007):
 i think you should do it in a relatively private place, no one likes to be dumped even if it is from a casual point of view.
imagine how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you prefer to be told?
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