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RealFunkyDudette
writes:Hii im 14 years old.And well, i have a boyfriend and we have been expirementing not full sex, but we both want to.Badly!And i want to start smoking and try drugs.I dunno what is happenin to me i am usually a good girl got high marks in my tests, quite bright i know all the bad things about drugs and smoking and sex, but that is what makes it sound so good!WHat should i do?I dont want to become a junkie on the street.Help....Btw-Im not a chav :) Im a highly respected cool kid :D
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reader, RealFunkyDudette + ♥, writes (12 September 2008):
RealFunkyDudette is verified as being by the original poster of the question To the woman who said 'otherwise u are a little girl and try to don't lose ur virginity with somebody who u don't love' One i am not a little girl!! FFS!!
And my boyfriend loves me very much and we have been going out for over a year! SO you know before you say i am a little girl and that i am a slag! So you knoww
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (12 September 2008):
If you have 3 cigarettes then the nicotine in them is enough to get your brain addicted.
They make you smell and make your teeth yellow and cost a fortune.
Do not smoke.
As for the other stuff, don't have full sex.... because even if you use protection there is always a chance you'll get pregnant, and that would be bad. Other stuff is pretty fun and harmless, and then more you do of that before you lose your virginity, the less it will hurt and the better it will be.
Drugs:
I'm not going to lie - I did pot at 14, and I have a degree and a husband and a career.
Other people I did pot with who were really bright in school, now live in a council flat down the road from their mum and spend all their dole money on getting high. It's ruined them.
It's a gamble which way you will go. It depends on how addictive a personality you have and how strong your will power is to resist peer pressure and emotional addiction.
Be very very careful.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): There's little advice I can offer to you. But I will share a story of mine:-
I went to a party and got trashed for the first time. I am anti-smoking but I tried a cigarette a couple of times and discovered it was overrated. I suggest if you want to try a cigarette get one from a friend who smokes, try it, and, if you're smart, you'll realise it's not that great.
Peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): Hey!
c`mon .. I know to be 14 can be so hard and u can have a lot of troubles with urself, family and friends but if u start to try drug it is gonna be really bad for u cuz it can be an adiction.. i used to smock cigarrets like 1 box per day .. and I'm 19 so .. i decided to quit and i did .. i has been 6 months without a cigarret.. it's better if u keep ur own free of this craps cuz u can think better and everybody is gonna trick ya like a real woman it doesn't matter if u think oh im gonna smock cuz it looks so cool! cmon it isn't cool and it can hurt ya so much .. otherwise u are a little girl and try to don't lose ur virginity with somebody who u don't love cuz it's gonna be a huge mistake and don't try drug cuz it can be bad for ya.. try to keep ur own .. anyway if u wanna do something do it! but do it cuz u wanna do it .. if somebody says u have to or u should or u could .. c'mon try to think with ur own brain
kissss
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reader, DoodlePixie +, writes (12 September 2008):
Every person wants to rebel at least a little when they're 14. Nearly everyone i know at least tried a cigarette. And with a lot of things its a 'try it once' experience. I wouldn't get too stuck up if you wanted to have a cigarette or try a puff of cannabis.
However, as Jamer70 clearly said, these things are addictive. Also with drugs, although cannabis may seem relatively harmless if only briefly encountered, it can lead onto you wanting to try stronger, more addictive and more harmful drugs such as cocaine or ecstacy. They are illegal for a very good reason and could potentially wreck your life.
As for the sex aspect? Well...you can only lose your virginity once. I won't say you're too young as i lost mine at 14. Yet i'm fortunate to still be with the same guy i lost my virginity to nearly 4 years later. Make sure your boyfriend is a general caring guy and not just a horny 14 year old kid wanting to have his first shag.
But you can still have fun in life without the sex, drugs and rock'n'roll lifestyle. Just be sensible, and as soon as anyone tries to pressure you to take drugs or smoke or have sex then walk away - it'll be the best decision you ever make.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (11 September 2008):
 well i can understand your curiosity towards wanting to try new things but you shouldnt especially at your age
Smoking and especially drugs can ruin your life and are addictive. You say you dont want to end up a junkie on the streets.
Your best bet is to stick to school, friends and your work.
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