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writes:I'm almost lost and on the verge of givig up...I have asked once before on what to do and I tried the advice and it doesn't seem to work. I have talked to my friends and they are puzzled. I have been going out with this girl for about 2 months now, I love her to death I'd do anything for her, we talk all day through texts, MSN, phone, Facebook, and we can talk to each other about anything. We spend at least an hour or two each night just sitting either in a car or outside in each others arms, we hold hands lock arms, I'm always complementing her and telling her how much I like her. Now I know she likes me, she intiates most of the cuddling but only after she almost ... asked me if it was ok to do so, I told her of course it's ok.After she did ask me I tried to get a little more affectionate. But i should mention we have never kissed ... I am her firt boyfriend and she has never kissed a boy. I hint and hint get close to her face and she just sorta looks forward and not at me, we have a super affectionate hug, and when we sorta break apart, I try to hold her by her hips and look into her eyes and she just sorta pulls herself away. When we sit in my car or on a bench she doesn't look at me but she will always want to be in my arms and tightly grip my hand. I've also tried being super confident and cocky and like touching her thigh or saying "you look really beautiful tonight" and then try to get in close ... she just doesn't make the half way point.I don't try and force it unless I sense some sort of 'mood' where I try to elevate the situation. I am very happy when I am just with her, but in a relationship you get to a point where you want to show your love with more then just words and cuddling you know. I know she has never kissed a guy before and has never had a boyfriend. I am just looking for that chance to sneak in that first kiss between us.My question is, should I try and force it? Like invite her over and start like a little play fight and kinda end up on the floor or something and break he ice like that. Or make it a gradual climb, like kiss her on her cheek or forehead and say something sweet and see if she gets used to me kissing her?, or just keep going the way I am going?I am really lost on what to do I like her so much and i want to show her through more then just words.
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reader, ThatOtherGuy  +, writes (26 October 2009):
Dude! That whole face forward thing is very familiar. If you guys are having fun playing around or whatever, when you get close to her face and she faces forward, sneak in a lil peck on the cheek, if she wants to kiss you she will most like face you. If y'all have that whole "Let's kiss" stare down thing then you should totally go for it. If not then DO NOT force it.
I did this with a girl that that wasn't even my girl friend, it should work for you if you've been going out for two months.
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reader, Esperanza  +, writes (20 October 2009):
I'd go for it! I remember when I was in my first relationship, I wanted so much for my boyfriend to kiss me, and I think at first we were both a little shy. I know I didn't want to make the first move, so I was waiting around for him to do it, and probably didn't want to push it onto me. Eventually, he ended up asking me if it was ok if he kissed me, and I said yes because that's all I was really waiting for. I was happy that he did.
She probably is just nervous about it. Maybe ask her permission first, or tell her straight out that you would love to kiss her. If this upsets her in some way, explain to her that it's just that you care very much about her and you want to show her, and that you meant no harm.
Good luck!! Update us on how this goes!!
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reader, nicole90 +, writes (19 October 2009):
 I suggest you try multiple things. If the mood is more playful say something like "you have something on your face, here let me get it" and lay one on her! If it's more serious then pick the right moment and lift her chin and move in slowly. Even if she doesn't go halfway it doesn't mean she doesn't want to do it she is most likely scared. just talk to her about it and see why she's doing what she is. it might be something she just needs to talk about.
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