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I want to prove this can work. But can it? Even if we were raised differently?

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Question - (26 August 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 26 August 2011)
A female United States age 36-40, *uvLost writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 years. Within this long period of time we have not progressed.

I was brought up in a family where we were pushed to further our education and strive for the best. I've always came from a stable enviroment and I want that for my family when I eventually have one. I've always kept a job, a car (which recently broke down after we moved in together) and has always tried to be in school. My bf on the other hand has always moved from place to place, has never had a stable job for more than 5 months, has never had a car, and doesn't intend to further his education (he does at least want to get his GED one day). Here's my question....

Do you think that our different upbringings can make or break our relationship? Do you think I should just hang in there and hope things progress for the best or should I just leave in hopes that I can find someone better? I know what I expect out of life but it doesn't collate with his. He's content with being in love and just making it(even though he doesn't even have a job right now so technically we're struggling) while i'm content with being financially stable (which is where education comes into play) and living life to the fullest.

My parents and friends have been telling me I could do better than him but I always wanted to prove them wrong. My mother and father both told me that if him and I were to ever move in, get married, or have kids, that I'd be the one paying the bills and taking care of the household. And fyi we have been living together for 6 months and now I'm paying everything bc he lost his job. Do you think they were right? I just hate being wrong!!!!

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A female reader, Aunty Susie Australia +, writes (26 August 2011):

Aunty Susie agony auntDon't stick at something, just for the simple fact that you "hate being wronge!!!!" Six years is a long time to have not progressed. And sometimes, even though it hurts us to admit it, our parents do actually know whats best for us. I think you know where you are heading!

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