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writes: Hi,I am having an online relationship with a girl from another country. We have not met in real life, but we have spent much time chatting on msn messenger, and we have built up a really wonderful friendship. I have fallen in love with her, and in the past she has stated her love for me. Now, however, when I have been trying for us to make plans to meet, she says that she is very confused about her feelings for me. She is 18 (I am 30), and she believes that it is normal for her to feel confused at her age, and she does not feel ready for a serious relationship. Can you explain to me a bit more about what it means for a young woman to feel confused? I am also concerned that if we don't meet, she will only see me as just a friend, and the romantic posibilities of our relationship will be taken away. I want us to meet, so we can decide on our feelings for each other, but she does not want to meet yet (and she gives no indication of when, if ever, we will meet.) I love our relationship like it is, but I also want there to be a romantic future for us, and it will be very difficult for me to continue being just a friend to her. Thanking you in advance for your advice.
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reader, DocSilverback  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 R&B hit the nail on the head. I need not state a word.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): I am sorry to say, but how much chance do you really think there is to span continents or countries, fly to meet this very young girl who is young enough to be your daughter and you sweep her off her feet and carry on a romance? What do you think will happen? Do you think she will move with you, marry you on the spot? Are you both wealthy? Can you afford many plane tickets or train rides or boat rides or what ever it will take to maintain this romance on the physical universe?
Does she live with her parents? I don't know too many 18 year old girls who are self supporting....and if she is living with her parents, they will most definately object to a 30 something year old man from another country coming to see their daughter.
I think it may be time to get out of your head in the world of fantasy, get off line, and go look in your local dating pool for a mature woman closer to your age and start a reality based relationship, don't you? You are hoping for sex with an 18 year old aren't you?
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reader, ..*TrueHelp*.. +, writes (7 January 2007):
 Helloi reckon that a fellow friend of family member has said something about the age difference and she has started to think about it. but if you really like her then u got to tell her that you really like her and that age doesnt matter. i am in the same situation i hav a really good relationship on msn n when i have asked to meet he had said that hes head is all over place said to him that ' i do really like you n we can make this work and that once we have meet i can help to sort things out' and it work i am finaly going to meet him so all you really have to do is tell her how much you like her or even say meet up as friends the first time and go from thereGood LuckJodiexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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