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I want to lose my virginity but I don't know who to lose it with!

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Question - (5 September 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 5 September 2008)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

i want to lose my virginity but idk who to loose it with...i want to with my ex because he's the only one that im comfortable with...im not comfortable wit sumone else...so should i just have sex wit my ex and continue on with my life? or just wait...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008):

I felt the same way you do. But I was 17 and I felt like I was the oldest person out of all my friends to still be a virgin. So when I did lose my virginity I thought I had waited long enough. But let me tell you, it is something I really wish I had waited to do. It really is something you should wait for- something you should do for the first time with someone you not only are COMFORTABLE with, but someone you LOVE.

You are far too young, and even though it seems like everyone else is having sex, they're not. There are so many emotions that go into having sex for the first time that you don't even expect.

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A female reader, nellynelly1305 United Kingdom +, writes (5 September 2008):

nellynelly1305 agony auntHi there, I have lost my virginity at about your age (14)so I won't advive you to do it nor not to do it, the final decision is all up to you. but if you do decide to loose your virginity now, no matter how much you want it, you will regret it later in life, and i'm quite sure most people will agree with me on this one. For a simple reason, -One day, you will meet someone, that someone special-and that's when you'd understand how silly you were for taking it lightly and not waiting (dont forget it's only once, thats why its special, so save this special thing for that someone special).

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A female reader, Msblessed United States +, writes (5 September 2008):

Msblessed agony auntHun you really shouldn't be in a rush to lose your virginity. It seems like you just want to lose it and get it over with, though i can possibly be wrong. I'm not telling you to wait till marriage or any of that. I'm just telling you you should wait until you find someone who you really want to share that experience with when your ready.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008):

Just search for questions on this website about how girls feel about losing virginity at various ages.

There are a hell of a lot more girls looking back and regretting having their first time during their middle teens than being happy about it. A hell of a lot more.

With the girls doing it below age 15-16, it gets difficult to find any girl that DOESN'T regret doing it so young.

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A female reader, Tremor Australia +, writes (5 September 2008):

Tremor agony auntWhy are you in such a hurry to lose your virginity? You're only young, you have YEARS to find someone special to lose it to. I think you'll find that if you have sex now, you'll regret it.

Your ex may be the only person you are comfortable with NOW, but keep in mind that he is your ex, and is probably such for a reason.

My advice to you is to wait. Wait until you are older and more emotionally capable of dealing with the complications that sex can bring, and wait until you find that special person. You only lose your virginity once, why would you give it to an ex?

There's no hurry. If you aren't sure, then don't do it.

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