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writes:I want to leave my partner , but what makes it so difficult is that I’m from a different country and we also have two young children with a third on the way. When I leave my partner I don’t wish to stay in Australia. I have no social network here and no income but what can I do when we have children together, they have dual citizenship? I feel like there is nowhere out and it makes me miserable and it affects my children. I don’t know what to do. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Aeval +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Where are you from? I think Aust is about to change our laws so that you can't have Duel citizenship. Don't quote me on that but someone in my office was discussing it.
Have you tried to make friends? What area of Aust are you in? Some areas are in the middle of bumbuddle nowhere making it harder to meet people, and then there are areas like Sydney.
With a baby on the way and children have you joined a mothers club thingy? We have
those in most areas, they are great for meeting new people.
is your marraiage unhappy? Why do you want to leave?
Maybe when the baby is born you can go back to work if that is what you really want?
Good luck
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hi,
I agree with the other Aunts. At least wait until your baby is born, before making such a rash decision. Why do you need to get away so quick, is he violent towards you. If not is it really fair to take his children and run?. Cant you make some friends where you live, it sounds to me like you might be a little homesick.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Maybe this will sound like unnecessary, but I would recommend that you think carefully about leaving your partner. By this, I don't mean that you can't or shouldn't. I just mean that it would be a decision that would affect your entire family and you cannot make it lightly. I have the feeling that you have done precisely that.
I don't think this is the right moment for you to leave him. You need stability to deliver your baby and for your other children, too.
If you want to move out of Australia, you need to have a way to support your children anywhere you move to.
Can't you stay in Australia and find a way to become independent there?
I don't know your exact conditions, poster, but I would like you to think carefully what you will do. I happen to have been in your shoes, but as a child. Plainly put, moving to my mother's country was an awful idea, for us and for her, too. If you have made the decision to leave your partner, don't assume that leaving Australia would be your best shot. Think carefully and without passion. When we moved to where we live now, my mom thought she would make it perfectly well on her own. No, that didn't happen. I don't mean that you stay with your partner, but I do want you to THINK CAREFULLY.
Wish you the best.
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reader, shania +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hey! lets not rush things here, your pregnant here and your emotions are all over the place, are you sure you want to leave your partner? If you want to leave then i would suggest you wait until the baby is born and even then,that would be too soon.Why do you want to leave him? I need more information here.
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