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writes:*Op's own title*So I have been in a relationship for about a year in a half. We have been living together for almost a year, but I'm only 19 almost 20. We started dating right after i got out of a bad relationship and moved in when we were only together for about six months. He was my night in shinning armor after the last guy i was with. But, I feel boxed in and my boyfriend isn't even doing anything to make me feel that way, i just feel there is more the world has to offer me. My boyfriend is the best he would never cheat on me, or hurt me and i know that he will take care of me no matter what. I love him so much, but all the time i think about moving out into my own place. He tells me that if i ever feel like i need to leave than i should, but i know that it will still devastate him. Here's the bad part i almost never want to have sex and he thinks its because I'm not attracted to him anymore, but i am. I feel like our relationship is like we are 45 not 19 and 22. Now i have been talking to guys over the internet that have seen me on facebook and stuff, but i have never went and met them. I also contacted someone from my past that i never dated but we had a brief sexual relationship.I haven't cheated on him and i wont, but it's still wrong of me to do. I like having a boyfriend, but i hate the responsibilities that come with a relationship. Should i break up with my boyfriend and be alone or am I being selfish? Sincerely, In a bubble
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 April 2010):
You're in no way ready for a relationship, and the truth is this is not the guy for you. If he really way, this just wouldn't be a problem. I think you like the idea of a boyfriend because it gives you a feeling of security. But as you said, you don't like the responsibility. And if you don't like that, this won't work out. You're young, and you need to be out there living and having fun. Because if you don't do that and carry on this way, it will only be a matter of time before either you cheat, or he dumps you anyway because you're not committed. You're not ready, so end it gracefully and have some years just being free. When you meet the right guy and you're ready to settle, you will do it.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (16 April 2010):
 Ask yourself this: If you broke it off with your boyfriend to where you no longer saw him, how would you feel? Better yet, what if after you broke up he met somebody else and was happy... how would that make you feel?
If that wouldn't bother you at all, then you should probably consider ending it with your boyfriend. Better he knows know then later.
If you think you'd be jealous and really think you'd miss what you had then you should really try to work things out in your head.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 April 2010):
 How would you feel if you caught your boyfriend doing what you're doing now? Would you think that he was being selfish?
If there's truly nothing between you and your current BF, then move out, call it quits, and do it honorably. Don't use the poor guy to sponge off of while you're off cheating on him. Have some respect for yourself AND him.
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