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writes:my girlfriend and i have done a lot sexually. we have both performed oral on each other, she likes it when pull out and cum on her, and she has even let me cum in her mouth and on her face once. i only recently told her that i would like cum on her face more because it turns me on. at first she didn't like the idea, then she said "it would be hot", now she is back to not liking it. how should i go about talking with her about this, or should i just stop completely.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Do or Don't do ONLY what your girl feels good about...otherwise you're not respecting her at all. Just because you want something doesn't mean she should want it too. Maybe she wants a guy with a brain and a big penis and maybe youi're not him? Think about it.
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reader, RudeBoy +, writes (23 June 2010):
Cumming on a girl's face has nothing to do with the degradation of women to me. To me it is just something I have always thought of as sexy and something I liked. It just feels complete just like cumming inside a girl. And cum is not the same as pee. To say that is completely ignorant and hypocritical. Many of the girls that say that on here and anywhere probably have came in their partners mouths at one point. Now was this obscene or degrading to the man? Hell no. Why because its not a big deal. It is sexy and I believe that if you love your partner enough then you should feel comfortable with all of their bodily functions. If I can put up with my girl's farting and burping and periods and all that other stuff, she can put up with a little cum. After all, I have no problem with her cumming while I am eating her out. It is ridiculous to me that there is such a double standard. It is so odd to me that to cum on a woman's face, not even in their mouth, is such a bad thing. Some people on here say its slutty. So what if you're a slut in the bedroom? Who's going to know? It's inconvenient? So is eating your pussy for half an hour but I do it because I love you. I have my boundaries, but my girl could tell me nearly any fantasy and I would not have a problem fulfilling it as long as it didn't hurt me or have any effects on my health. I just think that its ridiculous that it is such a big deal. Women need to get over themselves. To say ew to a thing like that is so childish and completely retarded. What if I said your vaginal secretions were gross and I didn't want them on my face. Looks like no head for you. Or right as you were about to cum from me giving you head I stopped and started fingering you. Wouldn't that just throw the whole experience off just a little and make the orgasm a little less intense? It just doesn't makes sense to me. Ok I'm done venting lol. If you could tell, my girl doesn't let me cum on her face. But I am in the process of allowing her to come to her senses. I'm not pushing the issue but she said she wants to try it again. But I plan on talking to her about it and we'll see what happens. We've been together 7 months and I have only done it once. She even said she kinda liked it. I just think she has some kind of societally ingrained inhibition. The whole stigma that it is linked to the degradation of women may be in her mind. Perhaps if I just explain that for me it has nothing to do with male dominance and me thinking of her as a cum dumpster then she will come around. But it really has nothing to do with that. Its just the completeness and the visual experience that she loves every bit of me is what is amazing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): Next time she is performing on you,before you cum tell her to start kissing your penis tip then blast her.This way you'll get your mouth level facial that you,yoursef get any time you perform oral on her(it's just as messy)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): If you don't want to get semen in her eyes then cum sideways across her face at mouth level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Depends what she is into.You have to bring the subject up with her. Just say you've always wanted to try it, but could never figure a way to bring it up without it seeming like you were treating her like a slut.If she wants to give it a go, all well and good, just try and keep it out of her eyes.If she finds it repulsive, you are just gonna have to stick to porn and keep the fantasy in your head.It isn't a process invented to degrade women. Porn is not degrading to women unless they a forced into it... and since almost ALL porn actresses willingly enter into it and most enjoy it and wouldn't leave for all th money in the world until they retire... I hardly see what the problem is.Is gay porn, considering most gay porn actors are not actually gay but do it because male actors get paid more for gay porn then regular, degrading to men if they do it willingly and have no emoional issuies because of it?Flynn 24
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (5 February 2009):
yeah i personally couldn't hack a guy cumming on my face. i would let him cum on my stomache or breasts, but not face! i think that crosses the boundaries for me. but hey she may like it. if she does not like it, then you just can't simply do it and keep it as a fantasy.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (5 February 2009):
 Hi again, Let me respond by saying, if you ask her and she says yes, then you guys have fun, whatever turns you both on. Some people find pleasure where others don't. That's why there is Vanilla, Chocolate and Strawberry ice cream.
your taste is your taste. To me there is no difference in urine in your face or semen, sorry. Take care.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (5 February 2009):
 You just need to talk to her and ask her. Does she like it? Yes - will she let you do it? yes - then great.
But if the answer to EITHER of these is no, then your fantasy should remain just a fantasy.
And the other advisers aren't so much trying to say that the REASON you want to do this is because you enjoy degrading your girlfriend - i hope you don't take it that way. I think their point is that the action itself is signatory of being degrading and negative towards women, but some people feel this way and others don't.
Just ask her and deal with the answer respectfully.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (5 February 2009):
but then if she is into it. ask her and she may want to do it. you will never know if you dont ask her.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (5 February 2009):
EWWW! i don;t blame her if she does not want you to cum on her face. can't think of anything worse,actually swallowing is worse.lol. maybe compromise and cum on her breasts or something. only porn stars like cum on their face. reality = normal girls don't like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe only reason i ask is cause at points in time she has expressed to me how hot it would be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor Artistry. Peeing in my face is not an equal. Some females squirt when they orgasm and if my girl said it turnred her on when she squirted in my face i would be more than willing to do that for her. It's not at all about degrading someone it's about the fact that i'm comfortable and love her enough to tell her my fantasies.
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (5 February 2009):
Respect the fact that she doesn't want to. If she doesn't like it she doesnt't like it. SIMPLE. Just be patient with her and you never know she might change her mind again. Don't pressure her as it probably make it less likely for her to do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): I don't know if it's really amazing for a guy or really something special, and I don't personally mind doing it. However, it is a real pain when it gets 1)in your hair 2) in your eye (yes it does sting) and 3)up your nose (can happen easily), and at least one of these happens inevitably. As I woman I wonder if it is all that amazing to warrant the inconvenience it causes. Having said that, it all washes off in the shower easily so it's no big deal, just a bit messy. Just talk to her about it and try and find out what she doesn't like about it; don't pressure her though, and definitely don't do it without asking first!
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reader, Artistry +, writes (5 February 2009):
Hi there, I find myself agreeing with the other writer. Why would you really want to do this, not that you are alone with this form of activity, but since you wrote in about it, let me ask you a question. It can be retorical if you don't want to answer it, but would you like it if a woman got turned on by peeing in your face, and would you allow it? Where is the happiness here? To me it is as the other writer said, a form of rudeness and degradation to a woman who allows such a thing. So it would be nice if you took that out of your repository of ideas and replace it with something more acceptable to women. Your lady probably wants to please you but don't use her as a towel, if you know what I mean. Forgive me if I was a bit blunt in my answer. Take care. Be good to yourself and others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Oh for god's sake, it probably gets in her eyes and hurts....go watch a porno, this practice of cuming on the face of the woman is to degrade them and make them true "objects".....fine for a porno, but do you really want your girlfriend to feel that way.....she doesn't like it and she needs to find her backbone and her voice and tell you to stop it.
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