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writes:I've been talking to a girl recently after a terrible long-term relationship of mine ended. This new girl is kind, loving, quiet, and has a heart of gold, but she also has flaws. She was raped as a child by her own mother and her mother's countless boyfriends. She doesn't rememebr any of it thank God, but it doesn't make her any happier either. And she has an attachment disorder (has a hard time letting go of people) and I'm afraid that if I decide to date this girl, and I have to break things off with her, I'm afraid of what may happen. I just don't her to get hurt like I was in my last relationship. Yes the irony is killing me too. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, dianamd  +, writes (3 December 2009):
the thought of dumping isn't a good thought at all......she is a human being,as u mentioned what happend with her in past is really awkward and painful event of her life...
if she too fell in love with u and then u want to dump her then i think it wll break her heart of gold.
she need care and love and she deserves good life further ..u probably the right person who can make her forget all her past and give her new happy life ..think over it and proceed..but u have intention of dating and then dumping then its my advice don't date nor dump ..stay far and search other girl who can easy go even if u dump her.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 December 2009):
Well that's great. But still give her time. She hasn't gotten over it, otherwise she wouldn't be like she is in a relationship. Be a good friend a this moment, nothing more.
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reader, JazzedUp +, writes (3 December 2009):
JazzedUp is verified as being by the original poster of the question I"m so sorry I forgot to point out that she was taken from her mother after social services found out about the rape. She was adopted by a very good foster family.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 December 2009):
I do agree with older sister. I think at this moment, she needs to be able to focus on her own life without any complications. I'm sure she is a lovely girl, but one day she might have flashbacks, or serious depression could set in and you could find yourself in a terrible situation. I think at this time, it would be better to not go out with her. Be a good friend, nothing more.
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