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I want to catch this guy's attention!

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Question - (27 July 2014) 6 Answers - (Newest, 27 July 2014)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

This good looking guy moved into my building about a month ago.

A couple of weeks back, we arrived at home at the same time. We park diagonally across from each other. He was ahead of me by about 10 meters, but turned to look behind him. He noticed me, there was no smile or greeting. Just a look, and he turned around and continued to walk away.

But he held the elevator for me. It was a surprisingly nice gesture. I thanked him and then silence. Not a word from either of us. We got off on the same floor as I needed to check my letterbox. He was picking up something from the elevator, so I turned and asked if he was okay? His response a very quiet, “yeah”.

Two weeks ago, we got home at the same time. I was busy getting stuff out my car and he headed off. No communication.

Last week, I left home extra early to get to work. I was in the elevator with a few other people, until it stopped on another floor. The doors opened and there he was, wearing a suit and holding his tie in his hand. Sexy as! He didn’t acknowledge me.

Obviously running late, he ran off to his car and left.

I am hopeless at flirting and sometimes, generally talking...How do I get this guy to take notice of me? Any tips?

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A female reader, Dionee' South Africa +, writes (27 July 2014):

Dionee' agony auntYeah he doesn't seem interested. I mean even dudes with girlfriends or a wife acknowledge other females (as scum as it may be). The elevator thing seems like common sense unless that person is really horrible, its a normal thing that's done. He hasn't even smiled at you, other times he hasn't even taken note of you . . . You guys didn't even talk in the elevator. Not even that "hey, how are you?" normal boring neighborly convo that is just common courtesy whether you've known them for years or they're new. Stop being awkward as well. Treat talking to him like any other person because even if he's just not interested right now for whatever reason, that awkwardness and those silent elevator rides won't do you any good. Now I'm not saying be pushy and nosy, I'm just saying treat him as what he is right now, a neighbor in your building until he gives you reason to act otherwise. That's it OP. Good luck.

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A female reader, Mistresskiki United Kingdom +, writes (27 July 2014):

I know this isn't going to do your ego any good, but I have to agree with the others who have said he probably just isn't interested.

It doesn't really matter why he isn't, you simply don't feature on his radar.

I would continue to thank him if he holds the lift, or a door for you but don't force him to react because it will just look odd.

Give ti a few years and, if you are lucky, he might say hello unprompted, but in the mean time look elsewhere. xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2014):

"i want to catch this guy attention"

please be patient and talk to him everytime you bump into him.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (27 July 2014):

Anonymous 123 agony auntHe may already have a girlfriend. He may be gay. He may be married/divorced/getting over a divorce or a break-up. Or, e may not be interested in pursuing any relationship because he hasnt shown any inclination to talk to you.

If you still want to pursue him then continue being polite and try and initiate a conversation with him. Its always easier to talk to someone when you ask them something. Smile, maintain eye-contact (but not in a creepy way!), compliment him...see where it goes

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2014):

Or he just may not be single

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2014):

Maybe he's just not interested. How many times do you need to run into each other, and get no reaction on his part?

You've spoken, and his response was forced. He just may not be interested in dating anyone living in the same building.

You may be female, but may not be his "type." Which shouldn't be taken personally; because once you get to know him, he may not be your type either.

I think if he was interested; he has had every opportunity to show it. Just continue to be friendly and polite, he may only need a little time to settle-in. Some people aren't the neighborly-type, and don't warm-up to strangers easily.

You don't know where he comes from; so being distant and in a hurry just might be something he's accustomed to.

Allow for the remote possibility he might be gay. I'm gay, and sometimes very aggressive females aren't easy to let-down; without a nasty reaction to the rejection. It's flattering to be considered attractive; but you're not always attracted to the people attracted to you.

As a single man, around what seems to be a larger ratio of single available women. I can tell you it is difficult sometimes to just walk through a group of women, and not be hit-on by one out of the group who wants to show just how assertive she can be. Even if she is politely let-down; I have experienced the comeback, "are you some kind of fag?" So, being a single-male has taught some of us to keep our eyes forward and to rush to our destination. Yes, even straight men do the same.

A batch of home-baked cookies, or a bottle of wine is a great offering; and a neighborly welcome to the neighborhood. Add just a little flirtation, and that should be enough. Wait until he takes a look at you all dolled-up for a night on the town. That just might turn his head; if he doesn't already have a girlfriend, wife, or boyfriend.

Worst case scenario, he is getting over a breakup.

He might just be ending a divorce; so he may not yet be on the market, so to speak. A big move or relocation often predicates a huge life-change. So be patient.

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