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writes:My boyfriend of 18 months has changed. He doesnt call when he says he will, he stands me up and I feel ignored. I want to break up with him in a way that lets him know I am not willing to be treated this way but I do still want him to know that I love him. I will only have him back if he starts treating me with the respect I feel I am owed but if I tell him that he will probably call for a bit then ignore me again. How do I make him want me again? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): You need to be realistic. From what I read in your posting, this guy has already moved on.
Time for you to let go. Don't contact him again and stop waiting for his call. You are wasting your time. Find somebody else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): Simple communication is required. You tell him that his attitude and bad manners are not acceptable and that you're taking a break from him unless he can demonstrate good manners and respect for you - and not lapse back into his bad old ways.
You may love him, but it would seem he doesn't feel quite the same way about you or he wouldn't treat you in this way. I'm not sure that there's any way to make him want you. You are what you are and there's no point trying to change your ways to be someone you're not - and the same goes for him too.
Maybe the relationship has run its course? Make a list of all the things you love about him and another one of all the things you dislike about him and get him to do the same. Many little irritations can build up into one big one. Comparing notes might make you both see things a little clearer, and if there's room for improvement act upon it - if you both can - to make each other a little happier about the whole situation.
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