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writes:hello everyone. i'm an 18 year old girl, senior in highschool. i've been talking to this guy for a little over a month now. it's clear that we are ''something'' more than friends but im not too sure what to think of it. i have feelings for him and he tells me he has feelings for me too. we hang out quite frequently but we usually don't go out and do ''couple'' things. that kind of bothers me but whenever i suggest that we go see a movie or something he suggests something else like we just go hang out somewhere alone. id rather spend time with him doing that than spend no time with him at all so i just agree to what he wants. we usually just hang out in one of our cars and almost every time he wants to hook up or fool around or have sex. we havent done any of that yet but he tells me he wants to. i really want to be his girlfriend and he knows that. the thing is that i'm leaving in a couple months for college so it makes for a tough situation. i dont know if he doesnt want to date me because he doesnt want the commitment or because of the fact that i'm leaving. he asked me to promise that i wouldnt see anyone else and i asked him to promise the same so i dont see why we arent just in a relationship. i wouldnt ask him to stay with me after i leave because that seems unfair..i just want a relationship for now and we'll see what happens when we get there later on. but he hasnt done anything to ask me out and i really don't think he plans on doing so. so basically i just dont know a few things:1. if he's just looking for sex and nothing else2. what i should do..if i should just stick to our 'friends with benefits' situation or walk away if he doesnt want to ask me out.help please? thank you all. Reply to this Question
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (17 March 2012):
 He doesn't seem like someone worth being with. You say all he wants is to hook up with you nearly every time you're together. All he wants is sex. He's not considerate either. Everyone goes to the movies with the opposite sex at least once. He needs to put your feelings and wants first for a change. You shouldn't have to commit to him if he's treating you like this. He can do a lot better. If you can handle being friends with benefits, knowing that he'll be happy and you'll always be wanting more, then stick with it, but I don't think you should. Find someone who's upfront and willing to make you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): As high school is a very critical period in ones life and sets the foundation for future success, I highly recommend you ficus on your education and not boys. You'll find plenty if guys in college and beyond. Also the mire educated you become, the better quality of men you will meet.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (17 March 2012):
 I think you already know what's going on, you just need someone else to tell you what you need to hear.No, he's not interested in you as a girlfriend.He wants to sleep with you. You're a walking masturbation tool to him, not a person.If he was interested in you as a girlfriend, he'd pursue you in a more gentlemanly way, take you out places and do "couple things" with you (like dates), get you gifts, call you, etc. He wouldn't pressure you for sex every time he sees you.No, you should not stick to your situation. You want to be WITH him, he just wants to get laid. You already know you're wasting your time with him. There are other single men out there that WILL care about you. I suggest you tell this asshole to get bent and find a guy that will treat you like a princess.
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