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I want the husband and family. Am I too old now?

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Question - (31 August 2011) 13 Answers - (Newest, 31 August 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am 27 and my partner of 4 years has just left me for a younger woman. I was meant to get married to him and have a family and no near my 30s I find myself single.

Is it too late for me to have the husband and kids?

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (31 August 2011):

chigirl agony auntYou should feel that your ex was ancient instead. And know what, looking at his behaviour he'll probably leave that 19 year old in 5 years top. For another young one.

He was too old for you to start a family with anyway! You'll want someone closer to your own age so you can enjoy your children and eventually grandchildren together. A father who will be physically fit to be active with his children as they grow older.

You'll find better, you're just feeling down right now and hurt from the break-up. You'll feel better soon.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011):

If you're ancient at 27 then I must be a fossil at 41.

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A female reader, YouWish United States + , writes (31 August 2011):

YouWish agony auntYou're in your prime!! You've got lots of time, and lots of strength, and lots to offer.

Just because your partner is a complete dirtbag cheater only says that he's a used up scumbag. The good news is -- he's no longer wasting your time with his worthless ass.

Your light is shining brighter than bright! Don't take his actions as a reflection of your worth, because it's not.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011):

I am the OP

My ex left me for a girl of 19. He is going to be 42 in February.

I feel ancient compared to her.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (31 August 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntwhat Chigirl said...

so not done at 27!

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (31 August 2011):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntSURE.. get thee to a nunnery and pledge the rest of your life to the Lord!!!!

F'r cryin' out loud!!! Of course you're not too old... in fact... you're in just the right time of life to have several babies... and be a great Mom to them. Caveat: Find a great guy to be their "Dad"... There are lots of guys who will share sperm with you... but only a handful will be worthy of your ovum!!!!

Good luck...

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A female reader, cheers Indonesia +, writes (31 August 2011):

cheers agony auntFirst thing you've to do is gain back your confidence.

Get out, hang out with your friends, involved in activities which has opportunity to meet the next prospective guy.

I know a friend who got married on 34 yrs.As she's a career oriented person,it doesn't bother her. Now she's living happily with a caring &doted husband.

It's shows his true bad identity.Luckily he left you now, compare to after he'd married you.That's even worst!

Pls don't let your mind run wild.Have you imagined kids

that was born disabled? You are totally blessed

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A male reader, mistermann United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2011):

Of course not. Surely you've heard the phrase, "life begins at 30!".

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A female reader, auntyR United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2011):

you are only 27! the way you are talking you's think you were in your 50's. Maybe you are feeling older just because your other half went off with a younger girl. Don't give up on living your life and having the things you want. You are only young. I'm 25 and i'm not married yet or have kids, i don't go round saying how unfortunate that it and omg im so old. Enjoy being 27 and when the time comes you will have a family.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011):

You're ONLY 27. There are middle aged men who leave their wives for a woman YOUR age!

You're still very young and you have plenty of time to marry and have children.

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A female reader, cinc71 Canada +, writes (31 August 2011):

cinc71 agony auntOf course not! Don't put pressure on yourself! You're still young and you shouldn't settle just because of your age also. I may happen quicker than you think. Have faith in life, stay positive and embrace a great future

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2011):

Good lord! You're 27. You have years for a family. Get over the pain of what this man has done for you, and realize that you're still young and that there are hundreds of thousands of better men who will want a family and life with you. You're still so young!!

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (31 August 2011):

chigirl agony auntIt's too late to have husband and kids by the age of 27, yes. But it's not too late to have it in your life, you will just have it later than you first hoped for.

It's life though. We can't always get things the way we want them, and often have to accept that our lives turned out a bit different, without letting that bring us down. Your life is just different from what you envisioned as a young girl. Just because it is different doesn't mean it's a failure.

We're plenty of women in the same boat as you!

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