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writes:So I'm an 18 yr old male and really good friends with this kid steve. I really want him to be a close friend of mine, and be each others absolute best friends. However theres a problem, hes already best friends with another kid who I dont particularly care for. Steve is all over this kid all the time and it makes me, to be honest, really jealous. The two of them have been friends for 6 years and constantly hang out at each others each weekend, go out to dinner with each others families and even go on vacations with each other. I dont know what to do beacuse I really want to be Steves one and only best friend, and it makes me really jealous that he already has a best friend and is constantly all over him. I dont want to be a group of best friends because me and steves best friend dont really like each other as ive said. I feel like I am too late to have him make me his best friend as Weve only been friends for two years and he already has one. however Im constantly feeling jealous and angry that he is not my best friend. Please help what should i do to make steve realize my feelings, have me be his best friend and get rid of my jealousy? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2012): You are 18, this is like the behaviour of a pre-teen! His friendship with this other guy is strong and your jealousy will show itself if you don't get it under control. People have loads of best friends, as others have said before me, so instead of trying to replace this other guy (which is NOT the quality of a good friend) just get to know Steve better and start spending a bit more time hanging out. Maybe if you hang out with Steve and his other friend you'll get to see why he likes him so much and then you'll gain two best friends instead of one.
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reader, SleeplessJealousy09 +, writes (30 May 2012):
 Hasn't anyone ever told you? You're allowed to have more than one best friend. That applies to everybody. If you want to spend more time with Steve, then just ask. Ask him to hang out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2012): Who said a person can only have one best friend? you can have more than one for sure, but the best advice I can give you is: quit being jealous and don't try to destroy their friendship because their friendship being over does not mean he'll become your BFF, besides this kind of behavior is really really immature, how old are you? I have friends who have lots of friends as well and I have many friends too, it doesn't mean I love any of them less, what happens is that with some I can talk about some things and they'll understand be better, with others I can talk more about something else...
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (30 May 2012):
 You're just going to have to give this friendship some more time. If you're meant to be best friends, then it will happen. But don't expect him to drop his other best friend to accomodate your feelings. Many people have more than one best friend and they're satisfied with that situation. I wouldn't tell him how you feel because your jealousy will just put him off. Just find more ways to improve your relationship, such as spending more time together or talking about deep issues. Or try to reach out and spend time with his friend and experience what makes Steve call him his best friend.
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