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writes:wow my "bestfriend" has always screwed things up for me but i always forgive her becuz she can be nice sometimes. she has started rumors and made fun of me and stabbed me in the back so many times i lost count. its too much stress when we fight and she says shessorry a nd shes all bi polar and stuff/but i dont care what she says anymore. ive had enough. she needs to know how it feels. i need to get even.any ideas? i reaaaaaalllllly need them Reply to this Question
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reader, xsweeet18 +, writes (9 February 2010):
xsweeet18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appriciate ur answers. and i know its wrong. but ive tried to ignore herr. she doesnt have many friends so she will actually black mail me so i stay her friend. i have no choice here. ive tried to be nice but honestly im wasting my time and she pushed me too far so im done being nice.
thanks tho
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (9 February 2010):
 Getting back at her probably isn't the best way to deal with this.
You say you've spoken to her, so she knows what she's doing. I agree with the other two, if it's causing you stress then the best thing to do would probably to stop contact with her.
I know that will be difficult because, as you said, she's your best friend, but it's not fair on you what she does.
If you don't want to break contact completely, just steer clear for a while and hang out with some different friends, that way you'll only see each other once in a while and it might not be that bad.
It's understandable that you want to get back at her for what she's done, but be the bigger person. You know what she's said isn't true, in the rumors, and that's all that matters.
The other stuff that she's done is bad, but there's not much you can do. The past is the past and the only way to move forward and be happy with your life is to move on and make some new friends who won't treat you as badly as she has done.
Hope this helps,
Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): I think the best way you can "get even" is to stop hanging out with this girl and carry on with your life. I know it must feel really tempting to do to her what she has done to you. But really, I think you are better than that!
I don't think this girl is a friend to you at all. She has caused you a lot of trouble in the past, and she doesn't seem about to change. It's understandable that you've had enough. So why do you put up with her? I'm sure there are lots of other friends you could spend time with who wouldn't dream of being nasty to you.
But really though, I don't think revenge is a good way forward! Think about how unpleasant this girl can be. Do you really want to be like that too? Or rise above it, walk away from her, and be happy in your own life? These feelings will pass, and I think you will eventually be glad if you don't react to her. Good luck! x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 February 2010):
Don't try to get even. If you try that, you'll end up looking bad. I think if she is treating you this badly, it's better to just end contact with her. Tell her you will no longer tolerate being treated this way and for your own sake you have to stop contact. Don't look for revenge, you're liable to end up even more hurt.
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