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writes:So how do I get my wife of 36 years to lighten up and try some different positions. She just likes lying on her back and doing our thing. Get it over with and go to sleep. She does not like sucking, nor letting me enjoy her other than sticking it in and that is it. Am aloud to suck her nipples, but nothing more.
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (23 August 2011):
After 36 yrs of marriage, she's probably set in her ways and has most likely gone through menopause two very difficult aspects to overcome even if she's interested in changing in the first place. Have you had any conversations with her regarding her lack of desire to explore and try new things? If not, why not and if so, what was her responce? From the tone and discription of your post, your wife appears to be going through the barest minimum just to get you off so you can leave her alone to go to sleep so anything outside of that would be a bother and inconvenience to her. How has your sex life been over the course of a 36 yr mariage? Do you believe she has been enjoying sex and being intimate with you or just being the dutiful wife?There is no magic bullet to getting cooperation from your wife in your bedroom. The only thing you can do is open a dialoge and discussion, encourage her to talk about what's holding her back and attempt to work on solutions if she's amendable and willing. You'll get allot further if you focus on what she may want to do or try rather than what you want her to do for you. She may already feel that she's doing enough for you as it is just being availible, especially if you haven't really been focused on her any of the past 36 yrs. If she clearly doesn't want to or feel the need to change anything then you'll have to accept and respect her decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): Tell her if theres anything stopping her from trying new things, maybe she´s scared about not being any good at it, or is nervous about something,talk to her about it and tell her how it´d mean a lot to you that you guys tried something new once in a while.
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