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I want my new boyfriend to be more adventurous in bed. Should I say something?

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Question - (16 June 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 17 June 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I love it when guys are really animalistic in bed, but my new boyfriend is really tame and romantic, which is lovely but doesn't get me fired up at all. Should i say/do something? Thanks x

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (17 June 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntI would be like "Honey, I really love it when you do that, but could we try......." and then fill in the blank with what you'd like him to do/say/try.

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A male reader, Ayan Ganguly India +, writes (16 June 2012):

Ayan Ganguly agony auntYou should talk to him about it...but everyone has his/her natural way of behaving in the bed...so do try to sugar coat your words because if you end up saying him,for example, his style keeps you unsatisfied and he should be animalistic it might end up affecting his performance...it is something you should help him achieve for your mutual satisfaction and ...all the best

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (16 June 2012):

YouWish agony auntThe fact that he's new works in your favor. You can tell him you want to try new things with him. Don't come across like you want things you've gotten from past boyfriends. Sex is an adventure every time you're with someone new.

He might not have a lot of experience. You could be his first or second, and the girl he was with preferred vanilla to rocky road.

Say something, but not "I want you to be more adventurous". Say "Let's try some new ways to have fun" and take the lead. He'll love you for it, and you'll love the added adventure!

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (16 June 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntOf course you should speak up. We guys CAN'T read your (womens') minds...... Despite belief to the contrary...

Good luck..... and have fun!!!!.....

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A male reader, eddie85 United States +, writes (16 June 2012):

eddie85 agony auntYes, you need to up the ante in the bedroom.

It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't know you as well and it takes a while for men to realize what their women like and don't like.

Why not take matters into your own hands? Do whatever it takes to encourage him, make noises, talk dirty, praise him when he hits the high notes. Afterwards, mention to him how turned on you get when he is really into you.

Without being super upfront about it, you can give your boyfriend some hints to satisfy you. If he is still failing in the bedroom department, I would encourage you to be more open with your needs and desires.

Good luck.

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