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I want my lover to stop seeing everyone but me!

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Question - (1 October 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 8 October 2011)
A female United Kingdom age , *osiejo writes:

15 years ago i had an affair with a married man, it lasted over 3 years and he was the love of my life. it finished when i discovered he was cheating with other women too.

i have been in a relationship for 8 years but my partner is always very moody and not at all easy to live with, i went back to work for my old firm where my ex still works and we have become lovers again. last night i discovered he is also seeing someone else, i cant ask him to be exclusive as i cannot be so to him but i really want to get rid of this other woman and dont want to lose him

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2011):

why can't you understand that your lover is a serial cheater? you are only one of many. will you ever get LOVE from him? No way. If you don't like your partner. Discuss with him and walk away. Try to find out a person who you can love you honestly. If you can't find one,then live alone. That's far better than sleeping with a Philanderer. Once a Philanderer always a Philanderer. That's their life. poor men whom I feel pity for!! Stray dogs are really better than them.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2011):

Why not break up with your 'partner?'

You describe him as 'moody and not easy to live with' so...why are you still together?

If you want your lover to be exclusive, then you should be too...but I don't really know if either of you are capable of exclusivity. Are you afraid of the consequences of breaking up with your 'partner' just to discover that your lover needs more than one woman to be sexually satisfied?

If you manipulate this situation to get rid of the 'other woman' don't be surprised if you find yourself completely alone in this world...no partner and no lover.

If you want your lover, you need to talk to him and determine if he wants to be exclusive. Don't be surprised if he doesn't. I'm sure he is quite content with his current arrangements.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2011):

maybe now is the time that you and him have to finally 'man up' and leave your respective partners and be together openly and honestly.

To do that you must talk with him to see if he's willing to do that. If you can't do that, then stop seeing him.

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (2 October 2011):

eddie agony auntWhat a nasty way to proceed. You need to deal with and settle your problems before you start new ones. What a mess. Why shouldn't he see somone else, you do.

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