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I want my boyfriend to kiss me!

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Question - (17 December 2006) 78 Answers - (Newest, 11 April 2013)
A age 22-25, * writes:

hey evereyone,

i really want my bf to kiss me, but we are still on our hugging phase. i think he wants to kiss me but is to scared and i'm just as nerves. i'm just to shy around him i need to know how to open up!

Plus he says he is the cuddley type but hasn't shown it yet i want to be close to my boyfriend but dont know how!Help me :/

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013):

Girl, my boyfriend and I were in the same stage like not even 2 weeks ago! All I did was, tell him I wanted to take a step further and he wanted to as well.. We then talked about it and one day we both leaned and BAZINGA! Kiss. 3 Just fucking go for it and dont be a pussy about it...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2013):

Hun, I think you should lead the way the way if you think hes nervous or to shy. If you want him to kiss u then I'd say u try telling him or telling him that u really like him and u want u want it to last and he'll get feelings and want to kiss you

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013):

Honestly, i'm in the same situation just slightly different. My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 6 months and we've only kissed like 3 times. And it was at homecoming. We were friends for about 2 years before we started dating. Im also his first real girlfriend so i understand his shyness. I love the fact that he wants to move slow but there is a thing called to slow.

You can try hugging him differently. I hug mine around the waist but I'm going to start hugging him around the neck to see if that helps.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2012):

me and my boyfriend are the exact same we have been dating for 11 months and were stuck on the hugging stage. i go round his house all the time but he wont kiss me. so on our last date i stared at his eyes then his mouth then his eyes then his mouth again and i broke the touch barrier by putting my hand on his thigh then he stared at me and we kissed then he used tounges i suggest you do this :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2012):

Well its the same problem with me. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6 months and we are still on the hugging and rarely holding hands basis. My friend says he want to kiss me but ive known that for about 2 or 3 months. I think he jut shy, and I kinda am to because I know it coming. My advice Is for you not to think to much about it otherwise when it may be coming, you may bail out.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2012):

That's like me and my bf I think you need too tell him how you feel xxx I mean if you really love him and he really loves you then Im sure the kiss will come in no time xxxx hope that helps xx

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A female reader, Amanda13 and in love United States +, writes (29 January 2012):

im almost 13 and my boyfriend just turned 15 the 25th. February 14 will make a year we've been together and he hasend even touched me! he keeps saying “he's just respecting me and my body” and i know he loves me i can see it in his eyes. my mom doesent rilly help out she wont let me spend quality alone time together bucause she thinks im going to have sex with him!! i meen i do but not untill im at least 16!! and even then im going to use protection. i love children and i want 4 of my own but after i graduate colladge. idk if he is a vergen or not but i shur as h*** am i just want some helpful advice o and did i mention his sis is my best friend we've known each other for 5 years

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A male reader, Darain293 United States +, writes (16 June 2011):

I'm am seeing this from the male point of view. The chances are if he wants to be your bf, he wants to kiss you! I really wanted to kiss my gf but i was looking for signals from her. Then one day she sent me an email that said "I really want to kiss you! If you want to kiss me to then the next time you see me please kiss me!" The way I see it you can avoid alot of awkwardness by sending a email, faceook message, tweet, etc. instead of talking to them in person. Me and my gf both now that we want kissing in our releshinship now so we happily kiss each other without all the awkwardness. (I have to warn you though dont go overboard with the kissing! Dont let kissing them take away from quality time!)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010):

Its the same with me. But iv kissed many guys and heres my advice to you. If you want HIM to kiss YOU then after a date or whenever you want him to kiss you say goodbye and look in his eyes for ab 3 seconds. See what he does and take it from there. (:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010):

same situation with me. me and my boyfriend have been going out for at least a month and weve only kissed about 4 times. i want to and i know he wants to were both just to shy. we hug all the time but we hardly ever kiss. i kissed him when we werent going out at a party and now we are we dont. its weird. well maybe you will both maybe open up a bit. i hope me and my boyfriend do to. hope this helped :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010):

just be open and honest, dont be super shy about it either, do exactly this.. lean your head on his shoulder very gently, this will make him feel like putting his arm around you, when he does jhust give him the "im so glad i have you" looku can bat ur eyes but not to much, bite the edge of your lip and lean for the kiss.. im sure he'll catch on to what your doing once you lean ur head on him

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010):

I keep seeing this 13 year old girl that is asking how to get her boyfriend to make the first move (have in mind that she says its both their first kiss),

STEP....

1.sit next to him

2. have him put his arm around you (you can get him to do this by putting your head on his chest and staring up into his eyes

3. dont blink to much, stare at him and only blink when you have no saliva left in your eyes ( make sure you squint)... not too much though

4.when your looking in his eyes talk about one of your most romantic memories ( first date, first time you met, when he asked you out... ect.

5. talk very low , slow, a feminin

6. dont drop your eyes for even a second

7. after he replies dont say anything just keep staring at him and smiling

8. if he still doesnt kiss you lean in slightly, and tell him you love him

........hope you get a smooch........

Courtney,15 Nevada Texas

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010):

me and my boyfriend r the same way we have been going out for about 3 months and i wanna kiss him but i dont think hes ready to and i dont wanna ask him myself and i dont wanna make the first move so idk what to do

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010):

Well the first time I got my boyfriend to kiss me was when we where playing manopoly. He wanted some of the properties and I told him under one condition and I waited to tell him and made him go crazy to know what it was. I wrote it down and told him to kiss me and he did. Do something first like play a board game...mostly manopoly cause it takes longer. But if he wants something..or to trade something say under one condition. Don't tell him right away but have him wonder and really want to know. But when he starts to ask every moment tell him. And hopefully he will kiss you! This works for guys who don't like to make the first move and are normally shy.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010):

well my boyfriend is the same way but he did open up and I will tell you how he did get him to come over or you go to his house get him to eat a bunch of chocolate and he might go nuts and say LET ME KISS YOU OR I AM GOING HOME!well I hope that works bye!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010):

I'm having the same problem. But, me and my bf are going too the bach in a few days, so I might give him the signs. Touch his arm, if he looks at you, look from his eyes, to his lips. eyes, lips, eyes, lips. If he dosent lean, then you lean. If he pulls back hes probably too shy, so just look at him and say please? Then he will probably get the idea and kiss you. good luck! Wish me luck too!

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A female reader, miss proctor United Kingdom +, writes (29 July 2010):

i am writing as somebody who has also experienced this issue and some advice i would give you would be to do something that he enjoys doing or that you both enjoy doing then kind of drop it into conversation or just lean into him when you are talking or sat next to each other.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010):

im a boy and kissing is just another way of saying i love you so since im a boy all i have to say is watch the sunset together and then look him in the eyes and then lean and he will get the idea so then it happens i kissed my gf bout 90 times in public and bout 100 million time private ohhh another way is when your dancing then look into his eyes and it will happen im a boy i know what to expect hope this helps alot peace out homies :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010):

if your shy and dont really want to tell your bf how you feel about you guys not kissing, you could always ask 1 of your friends to "dare" you guys to kiss and then you could say ok and that would make your bf see that you do want to kiss, and then you two could have your 1st kiss.

hope i helped!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010):

well,me and my boyfriend are 1 year already...we always kiss and uhmm..heres some tips...just act like a cute baby to him and hug him (just face in front of him and smile..)go closer and closer to him until he is tempted to kiss you..(be sure you put perfume on your neck)and then go closer and then kiss him..it depends on the person anyway..if he loves you then he will.if not,he will just be disgusted..so just make sure that he loves you:]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010):

Just lean on his shoulder, and he might surprise you! He might just come out and kiss you, but make sure its the right time to kiss first. You never want to kiss at the wrong time

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A female reader, jdbhottie876 United States +, writes (23 June 2010):

i just started a realasionship n me n my bf just started dating but i really like him n i want him 2 start at least hold my hand but i seem th nerves n wen any other guy said that he liked me my bf would tell them That we were goin out so then one day wen i didn't know That he was goin to kiss me i was so surprised so now

e n my bf have a better realasionship

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010):

Dont worry u can judt do what i did i just walked

with my bf to his house a cople of times just tgen one day i kissed

him on the lips and i was stunned then he just

kissede again then he droped me off then

asked me to be his gf do what i did or sometginf simler then

u will be ok

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010):

I was having that problem too, because my boyfriend and I are both very shy and yet I didn't want to make the first move. But the way we ended up kissing is I told my friends, but only the closest and most trusted ones, and it turns out he was telling his close friends that he wanted to kiss me too. Well we were dancing our friends had made sure no one else was in the room and a certain song played while we slowdanced. Then it just happends. Lol sorry for telling my story but my point is sometimes telling a friend you want to or asking her to help can do a lot of good. If they are a true friend, then they'll do what they can to make you happy and help you out. :) Sorry if this didn't help. lol

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010):

Well.Im' In The Same Situation.Im In The Seventh Grade This Year And He Comes Over Sometimes During The Summer. We've Been Dating For Nine Months And We've Talked About Kissing But Never Really Did. We Have Those Really Cute Moments Where Yew Think There Would be A Kiss But Always Got Side-Tracked...And I Want Him To Kiss Me Because I'd Show His Commitment To Me. And He's Coming Over This Weekend. I Need Major Help

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010):

its best when ur alone in private and when its raining its even better and ur probly thinkin why is the rain better well u ave a umbrella but make shour its a midiu m sized one and get ur boyfriend to stand under it with u then u stare in his eyes and just kiss but if its not raining then forget the umbrella just stare and kiss

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010):

Hi im the same except not at the hugging stage go somewhere alone and getly kiss him and say goodbye he will want more

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A female reader, amberlee United States +, writes (30 May 2010):

hey guys,, im 13 and me and my bf have benn dating for about 3 months and all weve done is hold handd,, were in 6th grade so we dont talk to eachother much and even havent even huggedd and the school year is almost over and i really want to kiss himm.!!! please helpp.!!*

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010):

okay what you need to do is follow these simple steps

Make sure you have broken the touch barrier.

When u guys hug pull apart put to a point where your bodies are still touching lean in when he closes his eyes you close yours if he hesitates say please and hell know you want to kiss him but no more than 10 - 20 seconds hope i helpeddd

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010):

well im in the same situation, ive been going out with my boyfriend for 1month and we've only kissed twice. i want him to kiss me more, but am too shy to make the first move. also friends are always around which makes me feel uncomfortable, and nervous because there watching. any advice? xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010):

I think you should just wait for the best time like at a sunsetting time and just look at him and then hug him and then YOU should kiss him!

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A female reader, sexygurl Canada +, writes (10 April 2010):

hey guys me n my bf hv been dating for 10 weeks and nw i want to kiss him well i tried talking 2 him and he said ya hes cool wit dat and we've already kissd nw well nw im vry com4table to do dat well try talking 2 him n mayb it will wrk Advice: if uve jst started dating n u already want 2 hug or kiss him n u feel com4table wit it den try tlking 2 him n find out wat he says ok!!!!!!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010):

Don't feel bad. The hottest thing a girl can do for her Bf is to take some initiative. Kiss HIM. But try not to go too far. Doing things like this takes time. Don't try the tongue, but don't just chicken peck him. I hope I helped.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010):

I have the same problem, we have talked about it though and we both want to. But we are both nervous about it, we hug alot and touch alot, just haven't kissed yet. Any advice?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010):

ok i havent kissed anyone yet, but thats just me. but what i think you should do, is just go with the signs girl! touch his arm, look into his eyes, lick your lips, stuff like that. but if its ur first, try to make sure its not in a public place. your first kiss is supposed to be special. so make it special.

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A female reader, sexygurl Canada +, writes (19 March 2010):

hey guys,

if u've just started dating your bf for like two or three weeks and now that your comfortable with the relationship and you now want to hug or kiss him well i hink you might want to hug him first but if you really do want to hug him then just talk to your friends about wanting to hug him and then you might want to tell your friend that your cold and want to hug someone if your friend goes and tell your bf then it might actualy worked i told my friend that i was cold and wanted to hug someone then my friend told my bf and now he hugs me all the time at school,Advice:try talking to him about wanting to hug or kiss him if your not comfortable with talking to him about that try talking to your friends and maybe tell them to tell your bf about it it might work thats what i did and it worked TRY IT!!!!!!!!and then let me know how it went pce!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010):

well what you have 2 do is just be beautiful and wait for the man 2 com 2 u

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A female reader, sexygurl Canada +, writes (15 March 2010):

hey guys,

iv been going out with my bf since three weeks now and we're still on the huging phase but i know he wants to kiss me because his best friend told me that and im hoping to get my kiss by next week when march break is over anyways,Advice:try talking to his best friend and see if he wants to kiss you,try talking to him in private if your shy in front of his friends/in pulic.gaze deeply into his eyes and lean closer to him remember always give a littke smile while looking at his lips that might give him a sigh tat you want to kiss him well GUD LUK!!!!!! and let me know how it goes

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010):

try kissing him that's what i did and it worked

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010):

I had the same problem. Me and my boyfrined had been going out for a while but he wouldn't even try to kiss me. I realized that I needed to talk to him and he opened up that he is shy and was afraid to go too fast. So I think talking it out with him is the best solution.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010):

hey i have the same problem my boyfriend is adorable!! but he has never kissed me. he held my hand once but cuddles up to me all the time. i wish he would kiss me. what has worked with my past boyfriends is

do it when he least expects it. make sure ur alone and close ur eyes and kiss him. its scary i know ive been there but in the end

it is all worth it!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

if you hadn't asked then ask him do you want to kiss it worked for me because my bf was in a hugging phrase and now we do both and i am shy so it took me three days before i asked

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010):

Does he ever hug you from behind? If he does, and you're feeling daring, turn your head and gently kiss his neck or cheek. If you're shy do it in private. He should get the idea and get into it.

If he doesn't hug you from behind, it doesn't matter, so when you;re hugging him, put your head on his shoulder, and turn it so you're facing him, even if he isn't facing you. If you wanna try the neck/cheeck kiss first, do some, but if you want a proper kiss, reach up with one hand and slowly turn his face towards you. Look into his eyes for ages, then kiss him. If you're too shy to, it doesn't matter, because when you do that, if he's ready, then he'll kiss you. If he doesn't, it's because he's not ready, and thinks you're moving too fast.

Hope this helps :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010):

im 13 and i have the same problem me and my bf hug alot but we just dont kiss !! he hasnt kissed any of his ex's either so im guessing its his first time and that he's nervous too, probably more nervous than me !!! you could get one of your close friends to speak to him about it (thats what i might do) or if you have the guts speak to him yourself :D

x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010):

Talk to him about it. If not face to face via text or email. Telling him how you feel is a good way to move past the hugging stage. My boyfriend and I just started kissing and it was hard but I talked to him about it first. Talking and being honest is the best thing to do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010):

i had the same type all i did was looked into his eyes for ages and then kissed him xx I Hope It Helps

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010):

just act normal around him have a laugh and a joke like you would with you friends get really close to him like asking questions. or if your both do something together like me and my bf both do sport and we make bets to see whos better and then your relaxed jokes come in just slip in a 'yeh if you win ill give you a kiss ;)' sort of thing he should get the picture :) hope this helps

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010):

I had this problem a while ago. My bf would hug me between classes and would flirt wuth me all the time. After 3 months he still didnt kiss me. So i talked to him alone and he told me it wasnt going to happen cause he thought i would be better then him. i told him it's ok. but really, it wasnt.i broke up with him the next 2 weeks. So to solve ur little delema, just be yourself.watch a romantic comedy movie and maybe he'll get the idea. good luck :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2010):

Hii im 13 and me and my boyfriend were BEST BEST BEST BEST friends for about 2 years up until like 4 days ago when i told him i liek him and he liked me too so then later he asked me out. im goign through the same thing as you though... we hug all the time and i think were like almost to the holdng hands stage but i really want him to kiss me ... nothing big just a kiss ... all this advice is great but the thing is i dont want to make the first move i cant im very shy i really want to kiss him though but i dont know how to get HIM to make the first move!... good luck , fingers crossed for both of us :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009):

you have to be courageous and take the first step. give him a peck on the cheek. he will totally get the message then.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009):

i was in the same situation as you today but as we started walking down the path holding hands at the park he pulled me into the trees and we started kissing while our friends were infront of us but once we kissed he said he wanted to kiss me but he didn't want to do it infront of our friends. thats why h pulled me in the trees but it wasn't a proper full on kiss it was just like a ten second peck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009):

My boyfriend is a lot older than me, so therefore I was the one who had to be sure kissing is what I wanted as I knew he wouldn't pressure me into doing anything. If its what you want, just go for it, if he is your boyfriend he will love that you have made the first move.. And just see how things go from there, if he says he wants to take it slow then respect his wishes cos it means he likes you alot and doesnt wanna have any regrets.

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A female reader, ToryHasGlory United Kingdom +, writes (19 September 2009):

Heyy, Umm I Would Say Just Go Out And Do It! And Then See What He Says. Lovee Tory..

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A female reader, guillemarie1997 Philippines +, writes (23 July 2009):

hey you know you can kiss him in somewhere private but first you act like you are in trouble (in a place somewhere private so he will kiss you) and you ask him to help you solve the problem and then you show how much you thank him and then start to let your lips closer to his lips(hint:bring a breathspray or breath mint because maybe he did'nt kiss you because you have bad breath)...............and trust me it worked on my bf

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A female reader, Lucy-lou United Kingdom +, writes (30 March 2009):

Lucy-lou agony auntwell i have been going out with my boyfriend around a week and a half and really he is the same being more of the cuddling type. we have had like a really small kiss but nothing major.

i am really the same as you wanting to kiss him.

i told him and asked if he thinks we will soon and he said that it might happen when i next see him.

i think maybe you should do the same thing and wait to see what happens

Good Luck

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008):

I think you should just trying kissing him for a change, once he realizes that you are okay with it he would kiss you back. I have been through the same thing as you before, except i didn't really want to kiss him. But once he kissed me I was fine with kissing, cuddleing, french kissing and things like that. ADVICE: Dont french kiss him until you have kissed him many times before thats not the first thing you want to do trust me !!!

Good Luck

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008):

okay so im going through almost the exact thing. except my boyfriend isnt the shy type. his ex told me once he kisses me hes going to want to do it repeatedly throughout the day. and im okay with that, its just this first kiss i want to get through. whenever everyones around us pressuring me to go kiss him i tense up and get nervous because people are aroung watching. it may be hard for the both of us to just find a qiet place to do it were its just the two of you.

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A female reader, i_luv_michael United States +, writes (29 November 2008):

i_luv_michael agony auntI am in the exact same boat as u r, me and my bf have been datin for almost 8 months, and i am SO ready to kiss him, my only advice is to wait for the perfect moment when ur both comfortable and everything will fall into place!! Good Luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008):

ya know what jst u kisss him on the cheek maybe then he will get an idea that u want to kiss then he might kiss you too!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008):

when your alone with him look him in the eyes to hypmatizes him and if you see him start to lean towards you lean toward him and before you know your kissing but before you do thatgive him a few playful pushes but if he dont push back dont do it agian you dont want to annoy him

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A female reader, justalittlebitdramatic Australia +, writes (31 July 2008):

I'd say he's about as nervous/unsure as you are. Act natural around him, like you would with your friends. Make him feel comfortable, and even act comfortable if your not. If youre scared or nervous, tell him. You'll find he will feel the same. When he becomes comfortable around you, he'll do it. Trust me, he's a boy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008):

i'm in the same boat as well i've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months and i really want to kiss him,he says he wants to kiss me as well but doesn't because he feels dat im not confident/unsure.Also he knows that he'd be my 1st kiss and he does not want to feel as if he's forcing me to do something i don't want to do. My advice is to not wait too long like me, also he probably shows little signs you wudn't realise till later. gd luck

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008):

I have been going out with my boyfriend for three weeks, and I'm kind of in the same situation. I kiss him on the cheek and we have kissed on the lips once or twice, not make out just lips. Next time you go on a date, make it a date where you are competing, such as bowling and make a bet. Say whoever wins gets a kiss. Try that and see what happens. As you go out more and hang out more, it will get easier. Just dont count on him to make the first move, because he might just be nervous. Remember that relationships dont always have to be about kissing. All that matters is that you guys like eachothers company.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008):

i have been going out wiht my bf for 5 days we havent held hands cus im kinda playin hard to get and i want to make out with him but we havent kissed id this moveing to fast???

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008):

I know exactly how you feel. I am in a relationship but I haven't even hugged him yet. I really want to but when he asked me out he said no "love stuff". It would be awkward to bring it up in conversation so I am assuming to just have to wait.

For your problem. I would make the first move. There is nothinng wrong with that. It shows him that you are confidnet and feel really comfortable with him.

Good Luck

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008):

hay hunnie,

im in the same situation .. part from my bf Loves to cuddle all the time.

i realy want to kiss him but im scared to make the first move.. i think he wants to kiss me but i dno :/

iv been thinking of bringing it up in a convorsation and hopefully he'll get the idea!!

why dont u try to bring it up in a convorsation with your bf?

hope this helps..and let me know how it goes =]

xXx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007):

hey well im 13 and me and my boyfriend have been goin for almost 3 months but our first kiss was on the bus i know it sounds werid havin ur first kiss on the bus but my bf tricked me he said i was scared to kiss on the cheek so i was goin to prove him wrong well i went to do it then he just turned his face and we kissed well now we kiss alot more since that well i was scared to at first but after the first kiss i wasnt scared no more so well i hope this helps u

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007):

I'm kinda in the same boat. Expect we have been going out for about 3 months now and we havnt even hugged! All his friends tell me he is a pussy, and i need to come on to him to give him confidince but its hard for me to do that. So im having trouble too!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006):

Hey,

I'm in the exacted same boat as you, the hugging phase can be a long one.I say just wait until you think he wants to kiss you, then if he still doesn't kiss you.Go for it! To get your boyfriend to cuddle with you just go to a movie or some thing, where he won't feel like everybodies watching him so he won't act as shy.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006):

I got the same problem you do. I don't know what to do. Maybe we should both ask the guy if he wants to kiss. If he says yes then tell him you want to to. then maybe at the right time he will kiss you.

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (18 December 2006):

TasteofIndia agony auntI think that "sweetiegirl" (the first person to answer) had it right for that first kiss.

Give him a good long hug, and then pull back just a little. Not enough so that your bodies aren't touching anymore. Keep your arms around him. Maybe kiss him on the cheek first and keep your face close to his. When you tilt your head a bit, he should get the idea... or go for it yourself!!

Try to di it when you're alone, so that you won't feel nervous because of other people around...

That first kiss is always a little nerve-racking, but so much fun!

Enjoy, sweetness.

xxIndia

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006):

Hi hun. I think you both have a case of shyness, you come across as both being as shy as the other, and face you your going to get nowhere fast. Take the lead, you'll be happy you did plus it will give you such a confidence boost. Men love women who know what they want and arn't affraid to get it. I know it may be nerver wraking for you, we've all been here and the ones who took the lead will be happy that they did, and the ones who didn't and got nowhere will be regretting it, even if just a little bit. Face it there is going to be some point in your relationship that you have to initiate a kiss, it can't always be him or you'll look uninterested, so go on, why not make it the first kiss.

Good Luck, let me know how you got on.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006):

give it time. You both need to feel 100% Comfortable around one another. Do fun things together to make it easy to open up like go to the movies or other places around. Theres no need to rush when the time is right he will make his move and if not theres nothing stopping you making the first move!? Well good luck

xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006):

Wow, sounds like you and my best friend are in the same boat. Anyway, it took me a long time to open up to my boyfriend, I'm a really shy person also. For me it was like the more time you spend together and the more you learn about eachother, the more comfortable you get. Try not to hold back and say what you want to say and do what you want to do. Like if you're determined to hold his hand or something, just keep telling yourself that you're not shy, and that you can do it. Maybe he wants to kiss you but is scared you're not ready, so show him that you are and kiss him first..Hope i helped.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006):

just dont think about it if you get nervous he'll sense it and get nervous and back down from kissing you

just remember if you feel yourself getting nervous just think of something else and you wont be nervous any more and so he wont get nervous so everyone is happy

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A female reader, mirrorimage~08 +, writes (17 December 2006):

hmm i used to have the same type to where he didnt want to do anything but cuddle but now i broke it off with him but now i have this other guy who isnt really the cuddly type but i would suggest is to try and make the first move

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006):

You just have to be very secure of yourself. Just try not to focus on what you are doing or on how you are acting. When you are with him try not to think about the kiss because you might get more nervous (I know, I've been there) Just focus on the things you like about him. If he perceives you are calmed he will feel much more comfortable and eventually kiss you. Remember that what usually sets the mood for a first kiss is looking into each others eyes for a little while without saying nothing. Hope this helps a little.

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A female reader, sweetiegirl Canada +, writes (17 December 2006):

sweetiegirl agony auntMake the first move when you give him a hug make it last a bit longer then you normally would then, move out slowly with out letting go right away look up and him and smile, if he doens't then you do it, make your move and kiss him

hope that helps

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