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writes:Hi, =) well, I have started at a new college, and I've been there for a good month or so I think (I'm a girl by the way). I had not too recently broken up with a guy..VERY badly I must say, probably the most horrific 'romantic' experience of my life =P And I had semi-sworn to myself that I was not going to date until I was in uni or even past uni. But love (if that's what it is) doesn't work that way apparently, and I am currently... um, 'together' with a guy who's in my course. He doesn't know how insecure I am, if anything he thinks that I'm very determined and stubborn, when in fact I am very unsure of absolutely everything!I want this question to be serious because I don't want to deal with yet another traumatizing break up. Right - long story short: Met him in a lecture, got on well, good jokes, liked his friends, his friends liked me, hung around with him and his friends from then on, was with him slightly more of the time, he always seemed to find me, talk to me, sometimes bought me things (lunch etc) in college *breath* now we've been to cinema 3 times (I think), a dinner date although it was ever said that it was a date, he's been to my house and vice versa both slept over (didn't 'do anything' though and I prefer it that way =P ) we've done the typical hugging on the sofa, had fun (jamming together, walking his dog, walking in and around town, chatting on msn, etc).OK, I have kissed him on the cheek and am literally terrified that it was a 'wrong move'? I am a bit wimpish when it comes to making the first major moves, and even though I feel like I want to kiss him I only managed to bring myself to a kiss on the cheek..how sad. =P He didn't SEEM to mind, I hope he liked it, if anything I hope it will make him more confident and maybe our first kiss truly will be special, haha or am I being naive?We haven't said we love each other, but that's because I don't think we do yet, if all goes well I think true love will come soon though, but who knows with love right? We DEFINITELY fancy each other - a lot. It's a good start. We like each other too, I think we have a lot in common.I am rather happy about keeping it quiet, we haven't said to anyone that we're seeing each other, and we haven't held hands in public yet but I think we've decided it's about time. His parents did see us hugging in the living room...so they know, and I think they're pleased about it to be honest!I am talking about 'parents' as if they either say yes or no...but in reality being together is up to us, and the only opinion I am truly concerned about is his. We haven't confirmed to one another that we are a couple. I don't like labeling terms like 'girlfriend', 'boyfriend', but I do want others to know that we're together now, I want HIM to say that we're together, and if calling ourselves 'boyfriend and girlfriend' is the way then I think I want to do it.OMG I have gone on, so tell me what you think you helpful strangers =) I'm looking forward to hear your opinions..XDKate
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (4 November 2011):
 Kate, jut take it slow and enjoy the flow. You could ask him at some point wher the two of you stand, if you are exclusive and "bf/GF".
What's the hurry?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 November 2011):
 Ok, mine is probably a dumb question, but...are you sure you two are together ? If I got it right , you have not even kissed yet, and he has never asked you out on a date , or spoke about getting together.
Yes, it sounds like you are probably heading there , but ... not yet. So , why do you want him to say that you are together if you are not together yet? Wouldn't that be jumping the gun a bit ?
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