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writes:hi,i need some opinions cos i am going crazy.My boyfriend left me around a month ago after 2 and a half great years. We hardly fought and when we did, it was usually me nagging him about his work. He worked long hours and neglected me a bit because of it. I dont care about any of that now.We are trying to be 'friends'. We don't see each other tho, just text n stuff,cos i still love him so much and want him back.The reason he wanted to split was because he wanted to be alone, he just point blank doesn't want a relationship. I basically tryed to force him into it after we split and he has been nice about it all, at least hes still talking to me. I sked him if he still likes me and he said yes, and doesn't think he can get anyone 'better'.Should i give up? He could change his mind again just as easily and i can't bear the thought of me not being there when he does. He wants to be alone just now, and i know that hes telling the truth, but i just really want him back.Should i do the friends thing for now and maybe in a couple of weeks/months try and talk to him again? I know he's attracted to me and we really did get on so well. I feel like hes just scared/confused at the moment and doesn't want to leave me hanging on.What to do??? This is making me so unappy and i just can't move on cos i know in my heart of hearts that this relationship is meant to work out.Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Sweetie- DRAMA is what this is called....Ur heart aches to change a person/ play with the person....Which ever is the situation... The hard part is recuperating what is lost....Feeling will be there, but time is flying away...Time heals the hurt (as with a scrap/wound) also works on love...Time and space change people thoughts...Whatever caused the break up "cause the reaction"By u providing space- Allowed change (in him that is)To every relationship - is a two side story (good luck)
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reader, Jolie  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 hmmm so....how old is he?? I bet he is nearly the same age as you! Normally by your age a woman is ready for a realtion but a man finds out that he wants to be a bit alone and hang out a bit. These things happenes to everyone sometimes......we all think about what we really want in life. I dont think that he left you because of some arguing that you used to have coz of work.
Hmmmm being still friends it's good coz at least you'll know if he have another woman in his life......even if he decrease in texts you'll know. But to not meet him at least twice a week its a bit grrrrr not nice!! He should feel something after a month not seeing you .....and what about his needs!!
Don't give up for now but hope kills you bit by bit and you can get more hurt! If you are sure that he'll be back then i don't know why you're worried but I can feel that you are a bit unsure about it!
If you keep being friends with him it's good but becareful ......talk to him another month and see what he'll think about the relation......Don't force him if he says that he's not sure but cut the contact and leave him.....let him come to you if he still loves you and really can't find someone like you
Good luck swty
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reader, sarah_s + ♥, writes (25 March 2008):
 I know how it feels. The same reason why my boyfriend broke up with me because, he wanted to be alone and was not interested in a long relationship at the moment. Although, we are still connected as close friends. Best friends more even. We still talk and go out. He said he still loves me.
So, listen to this. This is what I did. Give him space. Don't contact him, don't message him. Don't do anything until he contacts you. As hard that sounds trusts me.
You shouldn't force him. That will hurt you more. As you know he wants to be alone for now so, dont do anything to get him back because, you can't change his mind.
You can still remain as friends. That's one you can still stay close. For now just let him be on his own until you find the answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Hi. I know its hard i went through that. It was horrible. Its hard but you need to give him some space and go out with your friends and have a good time your friends are always there for you. Try not to text him as much. Then he might realise how much he misses you and wants you back. I hope you get what you want but if not go out have fun. It might take a while but it will happen x x
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reader, sadeyes +, writes (25 March 2008):
HiI am going through something similar myself and I am a bit older so have been through it in the past,as hard as it is you need to distance yourself slightly and not be accessible to him,otherwise you are there when he wants you,knows all that is going on in your life and while you are in contact he is not getting a chance to miss you,stop the contact,otherwise he wont realise he is missin and needs you.If you stop the contact and it fizzles out then it really is not meant to be
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