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writes:hello, i hope you are all okay. i have a problem, i really really want children, but my boyfriend soon to be fiancee lied about having a child a few years ago and was able to receive a vasectomy. but the thing is my ex resently offerd my the choice to have my dream baby by him(my ex) but i could never dream of leaving with out my boyfreind now he is everything to me! what do i choose? my dream and walk away from the man i idolise? or stay with the man i idolise and forget about my dream please help i am desprate!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 If your dream is motherhood then you will resent your boyfriend for not allowing you to attain it. You must move on and find another love who will share in your dream. Forget about the ex, that's just a nightmare. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): Ahhhh, so even if it was technically possible, he doesnt want to have kids.
So if you want to have kids, you have to move on. Having the ex's kid would be a total disaster.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell my boyfreind htes kids literally, he would never adopt nor have it reverse, so what now?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006):
You are not ready to have any child until you have a stable household. That means with a husband and the ex totally out of the picture. Having a child with the ex is asking for trouble in your new relationship.
Then you can always take your husband into the fertility doctor to see if they can reverse the vasoctomy or get some sperm for artificial insemination.
Or there are many babies that need a home, so the adoptin route woudl also be viable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2006): Hi. this may sound like the end of the world right now, but really it isn't. How about adopting? How would your bloke feel, you leaving him because you two can't have kids? Gutted. Just like you would feel if it was you who couldn't have kids and he could father them and he walked out on you. I's not an easy situation and i do feel for you. But your bf is flesh, blood and has feelings so please do think carefully before you decide to end this relationship. Kids aren't really the dreams that you have, i can tell you!
My daughter can't have kids and her husband is ok about it, they are going to adopt in the future. You have to deal with these things at the time. Don't give up on your bloke.
Take care
xx
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (27 November 2006):
have you spoken with your fiance about wanting children?
any thoughts about having a sperm donor ... like maybe his brother if he has one?
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