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writes:Please help me! I want a baby but im only 14 years old! My boyfriend is 16 and we want to be parents already! I feel ready for some reason! What shall i do!!??? Please please help me.
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reader, AlexBabess +, writes (8 June 2008):
Hiiaa
i wanted a baby to at 13 now nearly 6 months pregnant and im 13 ! believe me its hard. telling your parents, getting things ready, going for scans & dealing with people at school ! im happy that im having my little boy but knowing what i know now i would of waited till i was at least 20! the money is also a problem because my babys dad did a runner on me when i told him i was having a baby even thow he said he would like a baby because he was 23 and he said he would support me but obviously he was lying! please just wait !
From alex & baby boy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): hiyaa im 16 years old and my best friend is nearly 6 months pregnant! not only do you have to think about when the baby is born! the pregnancy is very hard as im with my friend almost 24/7! she is always been sick and is tired very easily, she is coverd in stretch marks and is finding life hard! she obviously has got another 3 months to go of it then she has to face the labour. i would seriously think before anyone makes any choices because i was desperatly wanting a baby but now seeing my mate finding it difficult it has made me realise that im not ready for it yet. anyways good luck to all your decisions but just have a long hard think before you rush into things! you have your whole lives ahead to settle down and have children, just think when you are 18 and are ready to hit the town! lots ov love anyways xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): you may really want one now...but you really should think about it!!cause you might regret it as soon as you have a baby...(this happened to my friend and she regrets it now)
i know this is not a satisfying answer but you really should think about it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): Im laughin at the cheeky sods answerin to this girl.
Right im fourteen will be 15 in two months, my boyfriend and i have been having sex and hes 17. If no one reports the male he will not get in to trouble. Its normal for mature girls at 13+ to feel they want a baby. A girl the same age as me has recently gone through with an abortion.
I know what this girl feels like, id kill for a baby girl to call my own. I know what these girls my age are going through, i understand, girls you should do what ever you have to. I love sex my self, and one day i will get pregnant, iv got a boyfriend who i love and trust, and i know he would stick by me all the way, so girls, just make sure you have a worthy partner before you even think about getting preganant xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): look i know how you feel. i am 13 and goin on 14 in july! i desire to have a baby now to but i know that my parents would kill me. if you can your boyfriend truly love each other and realy want a child wait till your older. im 18 is a better age to have your first baby. now im not telling you to get pregant at 18 but really think how this is gonna effect your life. your gonna have to drop out of school. and what if your parents want you to get rid of the baby. these are few of the many things that you need to consider.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Dont worry, i want a baby too and im 14. But it scares me because my friend recently was pregnant and something happened 2 months before the due date and she had her baby and 30 minutes later he died and she was in terrible condition in the hospital. i know how you feel but at least wait it out 4 more years until your 18.
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reader, charlene78 +, writes (17 February 2008):
OMG you are 14 and want a child already. lemme give you some advice, you want your boyfriend to get in trouble?? doubt it as if he is 16 and you are 14 he is having sex with you illegally as the legal age to have sex is 16! think this through very carefully, you are 14 with your whole life ahead of you! can you give the child your full attention as at the age of 14 i wanted to be out with me mates and having ufn, if you have a child then you have to consider babysitters ect. sleepless nights, expense..i.e nappies are not cheap.just grow up a bit before you think about children as it is only a phasegood luck chuck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): dont be daft you are only 14 and a child yourself. plus if you get pregnant at 14 by a 16 year old male he could get in trouble as legal age to have sex is 16, just thik about it, you have your whole life ahead of you to start planning a family. live your life and maybe reconsider when your a little more grown up
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): hey im 16 and really would like a baby aswell a year ago i wentthrough an abortion with my boyfriend at that time i hadnt finished my Gcses and my parents were so angry at me but ever since i had regreted that decision i really would like to be a parent its not wrong to feel like that at this age im sure theres more that do talk to your boyfriend and access your situation you need to plan and think carefully so that if you do you are ready to give your miricle the best upbringing
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): hi,i know how you feel.i am 16 and i have a 3 week old baby girl who i love dearly...i love every minute of it...now im not telling you to go out and get pregnant...its NOT easy having to wake up every 2 to 3 hours its not easy...you have to worry about a babysitter but i prefer not to ask anyone because she is MY daughter not my parents...though they help me and i am very thankful...giving birth HURTS you body is not yet developed at 16 let alone 14; there are so many thing you have to worry about like birth defects how will you take care of a baby with special needs when your still a child yourself...if ever you need to talk feel free to e-mail me at [email address blocked]good luckAlana and Baby Olivia
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reader, Prinstion Girl +, writes (15 January 2008):
 My Word Of Advice .. Dont Make The Mistake That Young Teens Do .... i can totally see from where you are coming fromand all .. but if i wanted to have a baby at 14 ... i dont think that mentaly i woudlnt be able to cope ........ having a baby is a life time comitmet .. and seeign though as you are only 14 .. that would mean that you would mess uo your future ... you wouldnt b able to do kids things ... and like you would have to skip the most important times in school ...
honestly i think that you should wait untill like your 16 or 17 ... trust me babe .. i think that it would be the best solution ... but if u think that you are truly decacated and you are sure about it then just be careful ......
i hope this helps xxx
you know how to contact me if you need 2 talk bout anything
take care xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): I understand where your coming from.I myself am only 14 years old. I have been babysitting since i was 10, almost 12 hours a day sometimes, kids are great and wonderful to be around. I really want a baby, sometimes I talk about it to my boyfriend, but he still thinks staying protected is the right thing to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): i know how you feel but i would wait because when your older you wont be able to do what you want to do like go to partys clubs your whole life will change
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): I completely know how you feel. I will be turning 15 in March, and I have dreamed of a baby as well! All I can say, is that things happen for a reason. And if you are destined to be a parent at this age....Then it will Happen! It wont matter what anyone thinks. If they care about you that much, then they will understand, and accept your feelings and actions about the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): hey...i feel the same way..im 14 too, and ive wanted one since i was 11 or 12...i know that im too young and im not planning on having a baby for a while..but i say if ur ready go for it...i no some people would disagree but thats just how i see things...xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): Hey Babes.
I know how you feel as i am 15, almost 16 in 3 months and i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years.. We live far apart from each other and only get to see each other every month and it is hard.. I really want a baby too, I can surport it in everyway as i have a job witch pays really well for a 15 year old.. My parents would be dispointed but still would suport me and my boyfriends parents proberaly would want me to get rid of it.. But your to young babes! Your only 14!
You need to surport it.. You can't just want one and when the going gets tough bail out. I plan to 'concieve' at Christmas.. I know i can give the baby everything it needs.. You need to make sure that you can to xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): Hi, I am now 22 and have a son who is almost 3. Yes I am very happy to be his mommy but I am a single mom and it gets really hard. I thought I was ready when I was 18 and met a guy I loved. I was with him for a year and we wound up seperating. I found out 3 weeks later that I was pregnant....I was so happy cause I thought I was ready and scared at the same time.I am now stuggling to get a job, go to school and raise my son. I would suggest like so many of these other ladies, that you wait. Baby sit...I got to baby sit evey day for almost 3 months....I decided when I was 16 I wasnt ready..I wanted to hang out with friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): Don't try to have a baby before you're old enough to care for a puppy by yourself. (And "taking care of it" includes paying for everything from the shots to the chew-toys to the collar to the food.)
Try babysitting a few young children (the younger the better and only babies who are still in diapers count). You'll be through with the idea of a baby within a few hours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): you need to wise up and do some reading on what it actually means to be a parent instead of having these fantasies of cuddling a cute little baby.
Babies grow into toddlers, kids, teenagers, adults... They arent just a cute little doll for trying out different outfits.
How can you be ready... you wont have your own house, a job, car, any money of your own... Wise up, finish school, grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): hi hunny. i know how u feel. im 16 now but ive wanted a baby since i was 11. i dont know what it is but ive always felt like i need something which i can have just a special bond with because ive never had that. i need something that depends on me and that i can love unconditionally and i think im just a really maternal person. it sounds really selfish i know but i know i could make a good mum and my baby would always be happy and well looked after. i think u should probably wait, definatly untill uv done ur GCSEs and then see how u feel. because you could change ur mind and decide u dont want a baby untill ur older and then feel trapped. i think just be happy with what you've got for the meantime. ur really lucky uv found someone who you love an trust at ur age. ur definatly in a better situation than i was. i started sleeping around unprotected at 12 and it definatly was a bad idea. ive just always had trust and depression issues and didnt really make things better for myself. dont make my mistakes. let urself grow up first. hope i helped xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): I think as you are only 14 you wouldn't have the true responsibilities that a baby would need to be looked after properly. have you spoken to any one else about how you feel, like yours or his parents? becuase if your serious you need to know things like where your going to live and how much money you have or would be earning. also you need to concentrate on your school work at the minute. if you wait i think it would turn out for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): I know just how you feel. im 16 and my boyfriend is 19 and we want a baby too, and we are trying. I just say go for it if you feel both of you are truly ready and have a plan. Good Luck and follow your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Im am nearly 20 and have wanted a baby sice the age of 17. I have been with my partner for 6 years now and we love each other dearly. We have had problems and come threw them stronger than ever. My partner is the most loving and supporting partner i could have ever wished for. I have 11 GCSE'S and we have both been in work since we have left school. We have been renting a place for a year.
My body is screaming out for a baby and it is constantly on my mind. I feel that i can't have a baby due to people judging me. I would love and care for my baby more than anything in the world. But for all the young women out there who wants a baby young, try and hold out for aslong as you can. Dont get stressed or depressed about it just feel excited knowing that one day its going to happen. Thats what keeps me going. I've felt like this for so long now that i think in the next 2 years me and my partner will start trying.
Just do what your heart tells you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): i no how you feel dont worry i have wanted one since i have been ur age n i still do i am now 16 and i am really broody and want a baby desperately i feel my life would be complete with a baby x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): dont be silly, you're still a baby yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): Even though you feel you are ready you certainly are not!you are in between the age when there isnt much to do!! this phase will pass... as soon as you turn 18 you will be ready for nothing exept going out with your friends. when i was that age i felt the very same. it is different having a baby to minging your little brother or sister this would be your responsibility. dont forget you have to be 16 to work so dont be selfish and only think of yourself you would need to provide for this child!! i am now 22 and have a beautiful healthy baby megan that is now 3 weeks old. i am so glad i waited i have evewrything! LOVE aSh!!! xX
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): Even though you feel you are ready you certainly are not!you are in between the age when there isnt much to do!! this phase will pass... as soon as you turn 18 you will be ready for nothing exept going out with your friends. when i was that age i felt the very same. it is different having a baby to minging your little brother or sister this would be your responsibility. dont forget you have to be 16 to work so dont be selfish and only think of yourself you would need to provide for this child!! i am now 22 and have a beautiful healthy baby megan that is now 3 weeks old. i am so glad i waited i have evewrything! LOVE aSh!!! xX
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Hii I know how you feel, im 14 too and have always wanted a baby but what you need to think about is if you did have a baby how are you going to support it? as in money wise, even though i have no experience in having children i realise that it is a hard thing to do, bring up a child.
Your only 14 wait till you finish school get the qualifications and job you want and THEN think of having children.
Because its not only you that will suffer having a baby that young but the baby too...I totally understand how you feel but you need to think about what you'll be getting yourself into.
I hope iv helped =]
First time ive done this
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): its ok do what you think is right and think very hard.....i too am also 14 years of age with a 16almost 17 year old boyfriend and we have thought about how we want to be parents now and not wait because today as the world is developing who knows how long we will have left so we are planning too. so please as i give you this advise think about what will happen if you do decied to have a child how will your parents react ,what about school,what about your dreams,and do you guys love each other as much as you think you do...even will he be there by your side and if you guys lie to each other........JUST THINK
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): hi, i am only 15 and i would like a baby, i was raped not that long ago and i dont feel like i have a pupose in life anymore. for me to have a baby would be amazing i would have someone to love and someone would love me . i would feel wanted and loved and that would me alot to me you do what you feel is best but 14 is still abit to young. i am 16 in october and i feel like i am at the stage were i am ready to
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reader, Charmedone +, writes (29 April 2007):
 Referring to the post (26 April 2007) i am appalled by your answer yeah sum teenagers may be that like that but not all of them i have a 2 yr old son who will be three in August and i'm 18!! yeah i don't work but i'm looking for a job so don't go slagging people of off you don't what it is like to have a child!!! your the one who is pathetic.
Anyway hi sweetie, y do u want a baby so young? ur only 14 u have the rest of school life ahead of you. I had my litte boy when i was just 16 and sometimes 2 yrs on i find it hard a baby isn't a toy that u can put down after you are bored a baby needs constant attention are you ready for that? i say no y i hear u say? how would you bring the baby up fiananclly ( plz excuse the spelling) babies are very expensive and then there is waking up in the middle of the night. Focus on your school life first, go to college get good grades and that way u can get a good job that will help you support a baby plz don't get pregnant at this age sweetie think of the names you get called i don't mean to be harsh but when i found out i was pregnant i called slag etc it hurts very much and it will spare you the pain and hurt hope this helped good luck xxx
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reader, katrinadeon +, writes (27 April 2007):
 id just lke to comment on what one anonymous writer put about 18 year olds only having babies so they dont have to work. what i would like to say is please dont tar everyone with the same brush. it really upsets me. yes there are some people out there who think having a baby young gives them all the things that appeals to them ie,free flat benefits etc but not all young mums are like that i was working even while i was doing my gcses the day i hit 16 i was aranging a job interview and i always had summer jobs and weekend jobs when i wasnt old enough to be employed properly.i know there are girls out there who are having babies like they are fashion accessories but we are not all like that. a lot of things have happened in my life so i matured sooner than i had to. so please dont judge everyone by the standards of some petty minded individuals
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): Ok I was in your shoes but I was a little older...I was 18. But I thought I was so ready to be a mommy. So I ended up getting pregnant the last semester of my senior year. I was thrilled until prom came around and everyone was out with thier boyfriends drinking and having a good time and there I was 3 months pregnant. Then graduation came along and I had to walk across the stage with a little belly and I couldnt even celebrate afterward. Now I am married to my daughters father and we fight constantly, mostly about the baby. I never get any time to myself and I have never had the experiences others my age have. I think you should wait...life has so much to offer you. You are young and you have alot of life ahead of you and plenty of years to be a mommy. Besides that I am sure you are not financially suited to take care of a baby...it is very costly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): I just want to say: "ENJOY YOUR LIFE, BECAUSE LIFE IS VERY SHORT". I'm 28 years old and have just 1 daughter of 2 years. The first years were very good. Now she is 2, I can really say that it is not an easy job. Sometimes I want to go out, and it is not always easy, because there is no babysitter. Trust me, you want the baby now, but within 1 or 2 years, you will remember that you are young and still want to enjoy life and hang out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): Don't even think about trying for a baby with your boyfriend. The last thing you need is to be a single mother (there's a huge chance that you won't be with your boyfriend once you are a mother and he lets his eye wonder on childless teenagers) with your GCSEs ruined because of a responsibility of a baby. A baby might seem like a toy to you but they are not. A baby needs looking after 24/7, how are you going to be able to do that when you are at school? Plus they cry when you don't want them to, need feeding and need their nappy changing. Too much for a 14 years old. So wait until you find the man of your dreams and settle down with a good job before you plan to have babies. Don't ruin your life by becoming a teenage mum.
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reader, TasteofIndia  + ♥, writes (26 April 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
I totally understand the feeling of wanting to have a baby. As other aunts have told you, you really are too young and a baby will do a toll on your body (you'll never have the figure you have now again) and a baby is EXPENSIVE! I think they've all done a good job explaining the consequences to you....
When I was younger, around your age, I started to want babies. I knew that it wasn't a great idea, so I got a big plastic bin. I started to buy baby clothes and toys and things for my future babies... I bought a journal and wrote notes to my future babies too. It really helped the urge! This way, you'll have lots of baby items for when you're older and ready to have kids. You'll thank yourself a million times over, I promise.
Maybe buy yourself a rabbit or chinchilla or a hamster - something fuzzy and cute... name it what you would name a baby. For me, I am really excited about picking out names for my future baby. Dorky, yes, but hey.
Anyhow, try it on for size... it really does help, believe me. Wait until you can really appreciate your child and give them everything they deserve in life. And, try to make your life as exciting as you can so that when your child is older, you'll have lots of stories to tell them about when you were younger and free! Life experience is a parent's best friend.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): Listen, I just finished writting a term paper on teen pregnacy!!! your body is no where near ready to be having a child. not to metion you cannot support this child financially!! you are 14 and it isn't healthy for you to have a child at such a young age!! if you two really are in love then yall can both wait until you are out of high school and college to have a child!!!! DON'T GET PREGNANT!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): i have exactly the same issue as u i think its mostly because we love and trust our partners enough to go this far with them but i do think you should hold bak a couple of years to make sure your absolutley ready...well thats what me and my partner decided and everything is going fine and we still talk about it now and again. i dont really know if i helped lol soz if i didn but im tired of all the grown ups on here saying something when they dont understand how it actaully feels ty xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): You need educating! Your still very very young for children! I can't beleive a 14 year old wants children! I see so many girls around my age [18] who were at my school aready pregnant and I think its just pathetic! Its so they don't have to work! And can just look after a kid ! Its pathetic!
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reader, lboy +, writes (26 April 2007):
 Dear Reader,
i know this might not be what you want to hear but i really dont think that you should have a baby at your current age for starters you are too young legally, and you should be getting ready for your GCSE's anytime soon. but if you really have your heart set on this baby then i want to ask you a few questions: 1. how are you gonna pay for this baby? 2.you may be ready for a baby but are your really ready to have a teenager on your hands because trust me that is what it will soon become? 3. have you ever thought about what you are going to do, i mean job wise? you will have to get a part timer and spend all your free time with your child, and what if the father ups and runs away how are you goin to cope with that i may only be one year older than you but please trust me when i say that i am pretty sure that you have not thought this through.
please make the right choice.
good luck
lboy
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): i know how it feels i was in the same position as you but your still to young. wait a couple more years and then you will be ready. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): This si from a personal note. I was 17 when i had my first child. Im 28 now with 3 kids (twins) and i regret having my oldest at 17. I lover my daughters very much but givin a choice id wait it out for a few more years. The other woman on here who has a good carrer n is stable should be happy she dotn lose her job! No job is stable nowdays! I missed soo much growing up and now 11 years later the only thing i do know is motherhood, i mean i have no sence of idenity aside from it. Im a single parent and i have very little time for a social life let alone a man who will stick by me. And what i lost was my freedom and most of my friends cuz they went off to college or got jobs after highschool, me i did homeschooling and never,never slept. At 14 n 16 what you want will change many times. Its rare but i know couples that have stayed together since they were your age. What im saying is get atlest your education. Trust me you will have many years of concieveing ahead, please try to "live your life" before you go down this long, lonely road. A baby is'nt all fun n cuddly (althou i like to think they are, if you breast feed your up every 30min or so nad formuls feed is about every 2hrs not to mention heating a bottle takes time, that a baby isnt willing to wait for. I babysat before concieving and its so way different when its your baby. So much you can do with your life. Im not saying wait till you have the perfect job and marriage cuz those things can be takin away from you fast. I am saying is to get your education first n have fun then when you feel your ready to commit to the rest of your life to putting yourself dead last then , n only then concieve.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 April 2007):
 You may feel you are ready but your body isn't. You haven't fully developed at 14. Chances for a complicated pregnancy are huge at such a young age. Why take the chance when you have all the time in the world to have a baby?
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reader, katrinadeon +, writes (26 April 2007):
hi im 19 and have an 18 month old daughter, i was 17 when i gave birth. my partner is 22 and in full time employent as a electrician so he has a good wage coming in. weve been together for 3 years. i too wanted a baby from extremely young age (about 12) although i love my daughter to bits i do wish that i had waited few years. although at the time when i was pregnant and all my family were saying i was stupid and throwing my life away,i didnt listen i thought i knew best i kept thinking how can you possibly know how i feel? i want this baby more than anything i am ready...but when it comes down to it as much as i love being a parent i realise now that there are things id love to do that i never will be able to like go on holiday and foret about everything and just have a good time, or go for anight out withought worrying if my daughter is ok.or go to college etc.. yes you can get family to babysit ocasionaly but you are never care free being a parent takes over your whole life emotionally, physically and mentally. please just enjoy your youth i cant stress that enough. get a great education and have fun. maybe get a puppy i know that sounds weird but they are almost as much work as a baby and just as affectionate and dependant on you.im talking from experience so just enjoy your life and when you ar older and more settled then think about starting a family. you will be so glad you waited trust me. xx
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