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writes: I'm 15 and there's a boy in my year who I really like and have done for about two years. I've never felt the same about anyone ever before - I look at him, even think about him, and I get butterflies; the first thing I do when I walk into a room is to see if he's in there and I feel like when I'm around him, I have to do everything in a way which would hopefully impress him. I know that it's wrong to change yourself for someone, but I really love him and I want to be with him really badly. We recently went on a school trip to Snowdonia, where we stayed two nights. We went hiking, and he was so sweet to me - he would often drop back or walk ahead of his friends to walk with me, we talked a lot, and we also went to a reservoir where I got completely soaked - I was walking behind him, he turned around and asked me if I was alright, I said I was really cold, and he offered me his jacket :) But when we got back to school, he completely changed - he almost acted as though I didn't exist. He stares at me a lot, and I think he has feelings for me, and I know I should ask him out, but I have this thing where I want the guy to ask me out so that I know it's genuine and that he wouldn't just say yes because he thought he could get me into bed. This guy isn't like that, but I'm too nervous to even tell him how I feel. I think he knows anyway but that's beside the point. If it gives you an idea of how much I like him, a lot of guys really like me and have asked me out, and asked me to do stuff - people I would normally consider, people who are really hot and from other schools, in the year above etc. But I have said no to all of them because of this guy. There is another guy who I'm really close friends with, but he's just a massive flirt. He always flirts with me around the guy I like, and he knows I like him but he still does it. The guy I like thinks there's something going on between us, which there definitely isn't - I see him as just a friend, but I think that he sees me as more than that. I want to ask him to stop, but I don't know how. What do I do?
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reader, Malcontent  +, writes (19 June 2014):
Agreed with N91. Forget societal stereotypes. If you're waiting on him to ask you out, for it to be "genuine", then you might wait forever. Or worse, find he's been asked out by some other girl and you've let the opportunity pass you by.
Take a deep breath, and take the leap of faith. If he's staring at you, then it probably means he likes you. He just doesn't have the courage to tell you. So do it for him and see what happens.
Good luck.
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reader, N91 +, writes (18 June 2014):
 Nervous or not, you need to TELL this guy you like him. He might like you also but he's not a mind reader. He may be shy and that why he hasn't asked you out.
Take a chance or you will just be going on like this forever.
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