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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a year and 3 months, it's been a long distance relationship the whole time and I only get to see him every 2-3 months. My boyfriend is going out with his friends next weekend, he's getting drunk etc. Thing is I don't normally mind him going out, but I just don't like this group of friends he is going with. The last few times he has been out with them weve ending up having massive arguments because of the way he'd acted. (When he was out with them and pretty drunk, he decided to ring me, then his friend grabbed hold of the phone and started hurling abuse at me saying he was going to kill me and stomp on my face, etc) and well I was really upset, I cried down the phone and my boyfriend didn't stop laughing at me and him and his friends were calling me pathetic and stuff telling me I don't deserve him.Well the next day he called me, he apologised for what him and his friends did, however one of his friends in the background decided to shout 'well i'm not f'king sorry' and because I was all emotional and hurt still from the night before, i got a little teary, so my boyfriend decided to say I was embarrassing him and started being really harsh to me. I ended up having a panic attach whilst on the phone, and instead of calming me down he told me to shut up and put the phone down on me and didnt talk to me all day.It took me awhile, but I did eventually forgive him (but not his friends-as I also found out that on that night they tried to get my boyfriend to cheat on me saying that 'she'll never find out, she's so far away'.And well, basically I'm dreading this weekend in case it happens again, so what should I do?I trust my boyfriend, it's just well I can't stand his friends and if he's drunk they may influence his to cheat or do something stupid, it's an all night party thing to so I wont be able to talk to him to late the next day. Alls i'm going to be doing is sitting at home worried, got any tips with what I can do to forget about him? Take my mind off the situation?Thanks x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 April 2010):
 Pardon my bluntness but yr bf sounds like an obnoxious immature little jerk. And I would be wary of a young guy that seems to find enjoyment only in binge drinking and hanging out with a bunch of apes. The company you keep says a lot about your values and personality.
Of course you are in love and you can't see it my way.
All I can tell you is : wait and see what happens. But if more trouble should come out from this second drinking weekend too- then your best choice would be dumping him. Fast.
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