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writes:So - the love of my life and I are on a three month break to allow both of us the time and space to get things right in our heads and to understand if we should continue seeing each other.Its been almost two months, and I've unfortunately had sex twice with two other different woman - one on a drunken night out and the other I met through a singles dating site. The drunk one - I'm willing to write off as a silly mistake and I certainly felt like I'd betrayed the woman who I am on a break with.The other girl though is nice and a nice person in herself and the sex was good, but I dont love her - I'm still in love with the other woman and I told this nice lady that up front before we had sex. I dont there is much point carrying on seeing each other - I'm hopelessly pining after my ex...I have two questions - One if I get back to gether with my ex should I tell her about the things that happened while we were on the break for honesty reasons and to show that I could attract other nice woman but I am choosing her and the second question is should I continue to muck the other nice woman aroundd - she knows that i would leave her if I got back with the ex and to be fair its nice, but not love....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses. I feel the same about the nice girl I'm kinda seeing. I know my ex will probably never get back with me and I wish love was one of things you could just cut off without any lingering effects so you can start a new relationship immediately. It looks like you can't.I just need time I guess to be by myself. I cant lead anyone on.Point taken about telling her, best to not say anything least I hear what she's been up to and hurt me further.Thanks for your help
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (7 August 2011):
 Personally I wouldn't want to know about what my BF had been up to while we were on a break I'm a "what I don't know wont hurt me" kinda person but if you think she is the type that will want all these things out in the open then yes tell her. But not to impress her and show her you can attract other people because us girls just don't care about that. When we love a guy we love them because we love them not because other women are hankering for him.
As for this other girl you need to spell it out loud and clear that she is on borrowed time with you otherwise she will get hurt. Also you need to think about how your girlfriend you are wanting back will view this liason.
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